Thoughts on getting your boyfriend an engagement ring for after he proposes?

posted 8 months ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

It depends on the guy! My husband wouldn’t have liked that, were not that sentimental so for him wearing his wedding band once we got married was it for him. He would have laughed in my face if I got him en engagement ring or present. 

bakerbee09 :  

Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper

I think this would be a great new tradition. Men wouldn’t have to have two rings since many don’t like to wear any jewelry at all.  But those who are open to it could wear the ring on the right hand while engaged and move it to the left after they are married. 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

bakerbee09 :  I did this. I got him a ring and was gonna propose myself, but when I brought up the idea he made it very clear that he wanted to be the one to propose. So I held on to the ring for like 6 months until he proposed, and then presented him with his ring as an engagement gift. He wears it on his right hand and will most likely switch it when we marry in April. 

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - City, State

I know men who have worn engagement rings. I think it is starting to become more common. I myself have been having a bit of feminist cognitive dissonance regarding the entire idea of engagement rings- why should I wear a ring that tells everyone I am “taken” when my partner does not? Why should I wear a symbol of male ownership? 

Of course there are some people who aren’t into shaking up tradition, but all of the traditions surrounding weddings and marriage are constantly evolving and changing so it’s really up to the two of you. 

Post # 35
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Helper bee

beeword :  Its not about being afraid to shake tradition, plenty of women still love being treated like a woman by their man without having to ask “why do I do this and he doesnt.” Yes, it’s such a travesty to get a gift (ering) from a man. How dare those evil men still think that women would want to be showered with gifts and affection.

Post # 36
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Newbee

After he proposed I gave him a silver band ring with a tiny diamond set into it. We didn’t have much money at the time (he proposed after we’d known each other for five days!) and my ring was just a silver ‘placeholder’. He still wears his ‘engagement’ ring with his 18ct white gold wedding band – my e ring was upgraded to a rose gold moissy which I adore! He’s very attached to his ring and I’m glad I gave it to him. 

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - City, State

nikkiv1313 :  That’s crazy- are you suggesting that different people like different things???? 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

My husband wanted an engagement graphics card for his computer lol so that’s what he got! 

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Green Bay, WI

A week or so after my fiancé proposed he was eager to go pick out his wedding ring. We went together and ordered it, and he wore it home the day we picked it up. He said “if you get to wear yours, I want to wear mine!”

He loves wearing it and spinning it around. People DO often ask him if he’s married already and sometimes they make weird faces when he says “no, not yet” but we don’t care. It’s a little out of the ordinary but I like that he was so eager to wear it right away.

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

My fiance has a ring which he wears. We figured it is only fair and it works for us. Really it is whatever works for you. After my fiance proposed I did a return proposal, and we each have rings which we wear. He does get questions about it, and simply answers that he wanted one to wear too. It shouldn’t be about what ‘is always done’ but rather what works for the two of you.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I proposed to my man with an engagent band. He loved it! Wore the white gold band io his left hand and didn’t care that he looked married already. 

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2000 - City, State

A couple days after my husband proposed, we went looking at rings (my engagement ring was the sort of ring that could never have a band with it unless customized, my wedding ring looks more like an engagement ring) and we picked out a band for him to wear. He got a different ring for the wedding, so we both had engagement rings and wedding bands and only wore one of them on our left hands. People at the time thought it was perhaps a bit weird but pretty cool too. This was almost 19 years ago.

Post # 45
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Sugar bee

It was a non issue fo us.  He has been wearing a gold signet ring with the initial of his last name forever. I didn’t even ask him if he wanted one as I have never seen him ever take it off.

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