Thoughts on getting your boyfriend an engagement ring for after he proposes?

posted 2 weeks ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

It depends on the guy! My husband wouldn’t have liked that, were not that sentimental so for him wearing his wedding band once we got married was it for him. He would have laughed in my face if I got him en engagement ring or present. 

bakerbee09 :  

Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper

I think this would be a great new tradition. Men wouldn’t have to have two rings since many don’t like to wear any jewelry at all.  But those who are open to it could wear the ring on the right hand while engaged and move it to the left after they are married. 

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

bakerbee09 :  I did this. I got him a ring and was gonna propose myself, but when I brought up the idea he made it very clear that he wanted to be the one to propose. So I held on to the ring for like 6 months until he proposed, and then presented him with his ring as an engagement gift. He wears it on his right hand and will most likely switch it when we marry in April. 

Post # 34
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Newbee

I know men who have worn engagement rings. I think it is starting to become more common. I myself have been having a bit of feminist cognitive dissonance regarding the entire idea of engagement rings- why should I wear a ring that tells everyone I am “taken” when my partner does not? Why should I wear a symbol of male ownership? 

Of course there are some people who aren’t into shaking up tradition, but all of the traditions surrounding weddings and marriage are constantly evolving and changing so it’s really up to the two of you. 

Post # 35
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Helper bee

beeword :  Its not about being afraid to shake tradition, plenty of women still love being treated like a woman by their man without having to ask “why do I do this and he doesnt.” Yes, it’s such a travesty to get a gift (ering) from a man. How dare those evil men still think that women would want to be showered with gifts and affection.

Post # 36
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Newbee

After he proposed I gave him a silver band ring with a tiny diamond set into it. We didn’t have much money at the time (he proposed after we’d known each other for five days!) and my ring was just a silver ‘placeholder’. He still wears his ‘engagement’ ring with his 18ct white gold wedding band – my e ring was upgraded to a rose gold moissy which I adore! He’s very attached to his ring and I’m glad I gave it to him. 

Post # 37
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Newbee

nikkiv1313 :  That’s crazy- are you suggesting that different people like different things???? 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

My husband wanted an engagement graphics card for his computer lol so that’s what he got! 

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