Thoughts on him calling you his Mrs when you’re still not engaged?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
1105 posts
Bumble bee

See I find this frustrating. If he sees you as his wife then why hasn’t he proposed? 

Post # 3
3251 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I wouldn’t want him to call me his Mrs until I had the paperwork on that promotion. 

Post # 4
1190 posts
Bumble bee

Where I live “the misuss” seems a colloquial term for girlfriend/significant other/wife, and not indicative of being married in the literal sense. 

But I totally see what you mean. If you don’t like it then say something. 


Post # 5
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

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bewitched :  +1, I don’t like it when guys “play house” but don’t want to commit with action.

Its fine if it’s a cute comment or joke between you two. When he’s telling his friends/joking about it, I wouldn’t know whether to take it seriously or not. 

Post # 6
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m not sure I understand your question. Frankly, it would bother me if anyone called me their Mrs., even if we were married. I’ll be a wife, but I’m never anyone’s Mrs.

Post # 7
2513 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I always thought it was weird when guys call their gfs “wife,wifey,mrs” when they aren’t married. Idk. It would have bothered me if my Fiance would have done that especially if we weren’t even engaged yet.

Post # 8
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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whoisit :  FH calles me “wifey” from time to time which doesn’t bother me too much, but when he did it before we were engaged it drove me bonkers. 

Also his mom called me his wife once and I chimed in “NOT YET!”

I can totally see this being annoying. ESPECIALLY before you are properly engaged. I made a point to call him on it every time he did it until he stopped. 

Then he proposed, and now I think it’s cute. But, that’s just me. 

Post # 9
1405 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

It would’ve really irritated me if my SO did this and we weren’t even engaged. I can see playfully at home, but I would never let him call me that in public until we were married. 

Post # 10
4958 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My Boyfriend or Best Friend changed my name in his phone to “Future Wife” once we were ordering my ring and picking our “elopement” cruise. It’s not something I would be okay with until that point, though. 

Post # 13
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

My Fiance and all of his friends referred to me as his “wife” in a joking way for over a year before we got engaged. It was really just a funny way of putting that “he had to ask the wife” or “how’s the wife”… I thought it was cute because at some point between girlfriend and fiancé it’s hard to find a right word for the level of commitment your at and it’s just cute. I never minded. And now I’ll be his Mrs. next week! 

Post # 14
2855 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Fiance calls me “wife” every now and again but he never did it before we were engaged. He has formally introduced me to people before as his wife though and while I thought it was odd since we aren’t actually married yet, it didn’t really bother me. 

Post # 15
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

No, I’ve never seen that happen – especially not at such an early stage of 1 year. But his mom would make comments alluding to that, such as “well soon enough you will be learning our language and celebrating our holidays!” and I was like um what? I like that you assume we are getting married…in fact the first time I met his parents the first question she asked after some random small talk was “so what kind of wedding do you like?”, a question I was so terrible unprepared for.

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