Post # 1
We do know we do want to get married. We love each other and care for each other a lot and have also been through a lot in our 1 year relationship. Met him when my father passed away and against all odds he stayed, through the mess and the tears, insecure and moody days.
I brush his ‘Mrs’ comments to his friends as a joke, but when I’m alone I just get giggly that I heard him say it.
Not really looking for advice but maybe input on if your SO indicated a similar thing before
Post # 2
See I find this frustrating. If he sees you as his wife then why hasn’t he proposed?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t want him to call me his Mrs until I had the paperwork on that promotion.
Post # 4
Where I live “the misuss” seems a colloquial term for girlfriend/significant other/wife, and not indicative of being married in the literal sense.
But I totally see what you mean. If you don’t like it then say something.
Post # 5
+1, I don’t like it when guys “play house” but don’t want to commit with action.
Its fine if it’s a cute comment or joke between you two. When he’s telling his friends/joking about it, I wouldn’t know whether to take it seriously or not.
Post # 6
I’m not sure I understand your question. Frankly, it would bother me if anyone called me their Mrs., even if we were married. I’ll be a wife, but I’m never anyone’s Mrs.
Post # 7
I always thought it was weird when guys call their gfs “wife,wifey,mrs” when they aren’t married. Idk. It would have bothered me if my Fiance would have done that especially if we weren’t even engaged yet.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
FH calles me “wifey” from time to time which doesn’t bother me too much, but when he did it before we were engaged it drove me bonkers.
Also his mom called me his wife once and I chimed in “NOT YET!”
I can totally see this being annoying. ESPECIALLY before you are properly engaged. I made a point to call him on it every time he did it until he stopped.
Then he proposed, and now I think it’s cute. But, that’s just me.
Post # 9
It would’ve really irritated me if my SO did this and we weren’t even engaged. I can see playfully at home, but I would never let him call me that in public until we were married.
Post # 10
My Boyfriend or Best Friend changed my name in his phone to “Future Wife” once we were ordering my ring and picking our “elopement” cruise. It’s not something I would be okay with until that point, though.
Post # 11
We have been together for a year. I’m not even THAT antsy yet. I think he’s more just playful with it and I’m just surprised to hear that from him as he takes it VERY seriously. He’s not even one of those men who calls anyone’s girlfriend their Mrs. Just wanted to see if anyone’s SO has done similar things coming up to it.
Post # 12
Btw he called me that at home, his best friend was there only.
Post # 13
My Fiance and all of his friends referred to me as his “wife” in a joking way for over a year before we got engaged. It was really just a funny way of putting that “he had to ask the wife” or “how’s the wife”… I thought it was cute because at some point between girlfriend and fiancé it’s hard to find a right word for the level of commitment your at and it’s just cute. I never minded. And now I’ll be his Mrs. next week!
Post # 14
Fiance calls me “wife” every now and again but he never did it before we were engaged. He has formally introduced me to people before as his wife though and while I thought it was odd since we aren’t actually married yet, it didn’t really bother me.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
No, I’ve never seen that happen – especially not at such an early stage of 1 year. But his mom would make comments alluding to that, such as “well soon enough you will be learning our language and celebrating our holidays!” and I was like um what? I like that you assume we are getting married…in fact the first time I met his parents the first question she asked after some random small talk was “so what kind of wedding do you like?”, a question I was so terrible unprepared for.