Post # 1

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Busy Beekeeper
So, one of the downfalls of not having a bridal party is that none of FI’s guy friends have initiated any sort of bachelor weekend for him. When we first started discussing this – he said he ideal type of trip would be a fishing day/camping weekend type event.
I basically know all the guys who he’d want to attend… and don’t mind coordinating the logistics…. but am wondering if I should be sticking my head in where it doesn’t belong.
When none of the guys took any initiative, Fiance said he didn’t care if it didn’t happen…. so, this is more MY thing that I’m sad about (that he isn’t having guy time).
Fiance would also be perfectly fine if I did plan it (he just doesn’t want me to add one more thing to my list of things).
So…. what do you think? Should I rally the boys to take Fiance out? Is this not my place and I should leave it be?
Thoughts??
Post # 3

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Busy bee
I think that would be awesome to rally the troops! You can even be sneaky about it. Pack up your FI’s camping/fishing stuff and a cooler the night before. Have his friends comes over early and “kidnap” him. That sounds so fun!
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
Are there any guy friends that you are close enough to that you could suggest they take the lead and planning a little something? I think they would be able to handle the logistics if you just gave a little push.
Post # 5

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Helper bee
I think it’s a great idea! A few weeks ago my girls had my bachelorette all planned and the fi’s groomsmen had nothing rolling. I was considering organizing something because I want my fi to have a great fun time with his boys!
I told his best man that if he wasn’t going to start planning something than I would… and now his bestman has an amazing weekend planned.
I say go for it!
Post # 6

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Busy bee
I would talk to one of the potentials and see if they might actually step in and take ove to where he would plan and do everything, but if they don’t really seem up to it I would definitely take it in full swing, and come up with something yourself! Just as we need our girl time, I think it is only fair that guys get that same treatment, especially since this is one last time to do it before marriage.