Post # 1
Has anyone ever been to a wedding with no meal choice at all? My sister said she had gone to a few years ago but hasn’t seen any in a long time.
We have several options for our meals – plated, buffet and family style.
The buffet is basically out – Fiance and mom both aren’t crazy over the idea. The plated dinners are the preferred I think, because most of them are cheaper than family style (which is a plus for me) and they’re my mom’s preference. Our caterer said she will provide us with family style sides because she knows us for no extra charge.
The plated dinners that seem more reasonably priced to me are Roasted Statler Chicken with Sage Stuffing, Roasted Salmon with Lemon & Wine Caper Sauce, Herb Crusted Baby Lamb Chops and Herb Crusted Boneless Prime Rib w/ AuJus.
I was originally going to have a choice between chicken and prime rib. That seems to be pretty popular at the weddings I’ve been to. However, the prime rib is $12 more per person than the chicken. And it looks like we could have the possibility of have up to 20 or so more people than we expected so I am afraid if everyone were to get the prime rib it would be more expensive than we were counting on.
What are your thoughts on having no choice? Have you been to many weddings where that happened and what were your feelings on it?
My Maid/Matron of Honor thinks as long as it’s something mainstream like chicken or beef and not say fish or pork then it’s not a big deal. We will have a silent vegetarian option. My other thought was to offer the lamb as a second choice because FI’s family is Greek so they love it, I don’t think as many people will pick lamb and it’s not as expensive as the prime rib.
Post # 3
I like the idea of having an option so lamb might be a better one than the prime rib. However, if you are going with a “no option” i agree that chicken is best as long as you do have a vegetarian plate for those who don’t eat chicken (or really don’t like the way it’s prepared).
Post # 4
I’ve never been to one without a meal choice, but IMO I wouldn’t care as long as I knew what was being served ahead of time…maybe if you could put it on your wedding website? If I didn’t like the main dish, I would make sure to not come hungry. I went to a wedding a few years ago where we had 4 choices for a main dish, but I was a vegetarian and unable to eat any of them. Sometimes there comes a point where you just have to do what fits in your budget. I definitely understand trying to cut costs-I’m only doing an hors d’oeuvres reception. Personally buffets are my favorite, but I understand some people don’t care for them.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t mind if there was no choice.. but I am an ‘eat anything that tastes good’ type of gal. I would still have a couple veggie options for those who dont eat meat
Post # 6
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it as long as you do have an option for vegetarians and people with dietary restrictions (ie celiac, food allergies, etc).
Post # 7
We are doing a dual entree and a vegetarian entree. Those are the only “choices” my guests have for their meal. But our dual entree is beef and fish with tons of veggies and rice so they should be able to find something they like. We chose the dual entree because we wanted to create a fusion of my and FI’s backgrounds.
Post # 8
We aren’t having a meal choice, and actually my wedding planner suggested it. We are having a formal coursed meal, here is our menu:
1st- salad, soup, grilled cheese trio
3rd- palate cleanser
4th- beef medallions with crab stuffed shrimp
We are also having a late night snack of a burger bar an French fry Buffett. The only choice we are giving is a vegetarian choice. I think we will have enough food for everyone to get filled up on.
Post # 9
I was in a wedding over the summer with no meal choice. I have never used the dreaded “T Word” but if I did, I’d apply it here. Your guests do not all have the same taste, and some have food restrictions for various reasons that are probably unknown to you. They deserve, at the very least, a choice between two meat dishes and a veggie option — I think the lamb as one of those is just fine, especially with the demographic of your guests, but it needs to be an *option*.
How would you feel if, as a wedding guest, the only options were something you can’t eat (allergy) and something you won’t eat (religious, health, or other reasons)? While obviously you’ll never please everyone, allowing a choice of 2 meats plus the veggie is the least likely to offend and most likely to satisfy nearly everyone.
Post # 10
My Future Sister-In-Law did no choice for her wedding and she did chicken because she felt it was the safest option. I think she just verified no one was a vegetarian first.
Post # 11
Could you offer the vegetarian option as a second option instead of a silent option? That way everyone still has a choice in case they would prefer not to have the chicken. I’m a super picky eater and I know I can’t be the only one who would be peeved not to have a choice at all!
Post # 12
I’ve been to weddings both ways–with a choice and without–and it didn’t bother me either way. My parents insisted on me providing a choice, but personally, as long as the food is good, it doesn’t matter to me.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t be upset, but I might not eat.
Post # 14
I have never been to a wedding with choice (other than a buffet wedding). We are providing our guests a choice.. only because we can and the options vary in price, so I think it will average out ok. I’ve never cared about not having an option!
Post # 15
I don’t eat red meat, but I am not a vegetarian. I just don’t like it. We’ve been to a couple of events that had a dual entree-usually it’s shirmp/meat or chicken/meat. I’m usually hungry by the end of the night because I only ate half my meal, but I survived.
Post # 16
We’re doing a ‘no choice’ reception. It fits our budget perfectly and we chose a chicken dish. I honestly think this was a great choice FOR US and we went with a chicken plate because it’s pretty ‘safe’. We couldn’t do pork, some people don’t eat pork, or beef, and we couldn’t do fish, some people are allergic. I think we will be fine with what we chose. There will be the cocktail hour with tons of food to eat, and there will be a sweets buffet and other little treats for our guests..So while the food was important, it wasn’t extremely importatnt to where we thought we needed to have choices. Go with what fits your pockets. You cannot please everyone, and you will stress yourself out trying to