(Closed) Thoughts on opening marriage

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 211
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388 posts
Helper bee

Somehow this is no longer as interesting.

Post # 212
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9615 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yes, she posted with her original account on page 11 sweetiemermaid :  

Post # 213
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91 posts
Worker bee

sweetiemermaid :  She signed in from her regular account and posted a few pages ago, admitting that she didn’t originally post from it because people would comment on her marriage. 

Post # 214
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425 posts
Helper bee

Goodness gracious. Dumpster fire to the max. I can’t judge, I know that. 

Post # 216
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Blushing bee

 Hold up! All those posts about how you both discussed it, it’s a mutual  thought process, and that there is no problems and you have a happy marriage with good and trusting communication were outright lies?

this isn’t going to work! 

1. It was not a mutually thought about topic that popped up while spending a normal night together on the couch. It was an ultimatum by your husband under threat of divorce.

2.if there has been cheating involved on either side, then your trust and communication are not as great as you were claiming and it was really crappy to get mad at other posters for suggesting there might be more going on than just looking to spice up a happy stable marriage. 

3.if it’s gotten to the point he no longer wants to be married to you and has already asked for a divorce and moved out do you really think this would end up being a sexy only thing while staying committed to you emotionally? He’s already not with you emotionally which opens up doors to other REAL relationships with the exuse to the other woman that you are separated. 

4.im sure if the PPs that already posted being for it, or PPs that have personally done open marriage or poly and succeeded would change their mind and not recommend it for you personally. These PPs probably had truly stable, truly happy, still in the same home together marriages; and were taking your word for it that you had marriages like them when you didn’t. That all mentioned what strong traits their marriages had or that they went into the relationship with that lifestyle/ belief and already tried/talked about….you have none of that. 

Post # 217
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Worker bee

princessanon0125 :  As I said, I only wanted general thoughts on open marriages and relationships and read about other people’s experiences, not comments on my marriage.

That’s why I didn’t want to talk about my marriage. But people kept talking about it on this post anyway, so I decided to post from my original account because nearly all the posts are about our marriage not what I originally asked.

chiara :  Yes he is still seeing her.

Post # 218
Hostess
3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

OP (in both of your iterations) your marriage is toast. And you’re doing a disservice to those who are respectfully polyamorous by trying to claim that is why you both cheated. I’m closing this now. 

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