(Closed) Thoughts on post-wedding brunch?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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mrslovinglee:  It is absolutely not necessary nor expected. Of the dozens of weddings I’ve been to, I’ve gone to three brunches and one of those was JUST our group of friends (all from out of state) with the bride & groom. No family, no other friends. Another was held at the wedding venue which was also where the out of state friends  & family were staying. Basically like a retreat center. So we were all going to eat there anyway… it just included the bride and groom and a few local friends. The last was basically what your Future Mother-In-Law is suggesting. It was boring and I hated it, for what it’s worth. 

Post # 17
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Helper bee

Why don’t you compromise and informally spread the word that you will be going to _____ restaurant in the morning for breakfast and anybody can join? That way everybody pays for their own meal.

I personally LOVE going to breakfast after a night out and rehashing things. Both Fiance and I are getting married near our college town so chances are we will go to our favorite diner the day after the wedding and invite a few friends to go too. 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We are doing a brunch because I want. My parents are splitting the cost of that, which is really nice of them. Everyone has to travel in the day before the wedding and they’ll be leaving later on the day after the wedding, so I thought it would be ncie to get everyone together one last day where it’s not so crazy and dark and loud lol.

To each their own. My wedding will be the first I’ve been to that will have one. And if your guests want nothing to do with it, they don’t have to go. No point in complaining you don’t want to go if you don’t have to.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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mrslovinglee:  Nope not having a brunch! And we are thinking cape cod or the vineyard for our wedding. I would rather let my guest wnjoy the cape. I mean it is a bit of a hike to get to the cape. (I hate cape traffic) And as much fun as tbrunch is. I mean come on it’s the cape! I mean if it was a brunch on the beach fine. But it’s at her house. (Hmm I might have to tell Fiance we are going to the cape next weekend. I really want to go now. Ptown here I come!)

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Its not necessary. I have been to one post wedding brunch, but it was totally low key. A bunch of people met at a restaurant and everybody paid for their own meals. It was all of my FIs college friends that we never get to see so it was nice to hang out and not have to say goodbye at the reception. That being said, I wouldn’t have wanted to hang out anywhere for 3 hours since we had to drive home later…

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Where i’m from. Long Island it’s nothing that’s EXPECTED. I’ve never been to a wedding brunch either. If it were me and i was an out of town guest, i would rather just eat at my hotel and explore the area if it was new to me. And honestly I might just be too tired to attend a brunch the next day. I dressed up the night before, the partied hard, i’d rather just relax the next day. I would decline. 

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