(Closed) Thoughts on private ceremony with a friends/family reception after?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
Member
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

FYI, you’re going to get a lot of backlash on this just because the reception is supposed to be a thank you for attending the ceremony. If you don’t invite them to the ceremony, etiquette speaking, then you don’t invite them to the reception.

 

Post # 4
Member
1422 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

Celebrate after, as in the same day? or a week/month/year after? 

Post # 6
Member
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I attended a wedding that was set up like this–it was a blended family with several small kids and they wanted the ceremony to be personal and about their families becoming one. They actually also had dinner together privately, but then had a reception following that with drinks and appetizers and dancing. I thought it was perfectly lovely. I know that “etiquette” says certain things, but whatever. People important to you who want to celebrate with you will be there, and those who are offended can just deal with it. That’s my personal take, at least!

Post # 7
Member
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

View original reply
tessadub:  If that’s what you want to do, I’m all for it. I’m just making you aware of what you’re going to hear.

The invitation should be for the reception. Something like

“Come join in the celebration of Mr. and Mrs. Tessadub after their union as man and wife

at This Restaurant

Half past time of day”

 

I’m sure there’s a better way to say it but if you’re going to have a really intimate wedding then everyone invited to the ceremony can be told by word of mouth or with a seperate invite.

 

Post # 8
Member
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

We are having a private ceremony with just us, officiant, and photographer on an island in Mexico. A month later, we are having a “party” (essentially a reception, but you can’t call it that on Weddingbee! hah) to celebrate with family and friends. We recently got our invitations and they say “J&C were married in paradise on 2/16/16. Please join us to celebrate their marriage” then it has the date/time/location, and there’s a little something on the bottom that says “join us for dinner, drinks, and dancing!” so that our guests know what to expect. I went to a reception (I mean…party!) a few years ago that was pretty much the same (couple had gotten married privately in Fiji) and it was a blast. No sitting through ceremonies, shuffling back and forth to different venues, etc. Just show up, eat, drink, and dance your face off. I will be wearing my wedding dress, for what it’s worth.

Post # 10
Member
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We did this, and it was perfect!

We had a reception/open house/party the weekend after the ceremony. Our invitations said “We’re tying the knot! Please join us for a family reception celebrating M & A’s new life together.” Or something like that. Then on the back they said “M & A will be married in a small ceremony on January 6. Please join us the following weekend for dinner and drinks at the beach.” So it was very clear that this was just a post-wedding open house deal.

Post # 11
Member
258 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
tessadub:  I think that it’s a great idea. To me, it’s not a big deal at all. I’ve been to a few wedding celebrations where they got married at the courthouse and then had a reception/ dinner afterwards.

At the same time, in making your decision, find out how important other peoples’ opinions are to you. And if it would affect you. Would your or his parents’ disapproval have an impact on your planning? If the people that matter have your full support, then it’s of course less of a headache. But at the end of the day, do what you want to be happy. 

My friends had a small intimate ceremony. Then she had a BBQ inviting almost 150 people. It was great. Below is a sample of the invite she used, except she reworded it to say, surprise we eloped! Come celebrate with us…etc.

 

 

Post # 12
Member
1338 posts
Bumble bee

Since the ceremony would be only for immediate family, I don’t see a problem with this. I get bent out of shape when it’s a huge ceremony for “A” listers and everyone else is left out. 

I’d word the invitation something like “Please join us for a reception to honor the marriage of so and so”

Post # 14
Member
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m not sure why you would do that. We went to wedding like that and it was weird. We are supose to see the wedding. Not just have a party. It’s up to you. If you have a small ceromony away. Then I can understand when you come back to maybe have a party. Thats just eloping. Which is fine too. But the wedding we went to the had the cerimony right before the reception. No one got to see it and it was weird. 

The topic ‘Thoughts on private ceremony with a friends/family reception after?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors