Post # 46
I dated my husband for about 9.5-10 months before we were engaged. I had known him for 1.5 years- we worked together, although in all honesty, didn’t have a ton of interaction at work. We had a 4.75 month engagement. We’ve been married 10 months.
Neither one of us has been married before, and we are a little older than many first time bride and grooms (we got married when I was 33 and he was 34). He left the job that I met him at right when we started dating and didn’t work for a few months. I worked at night- so we had lots of time to get to know each other.
Neither one of our families prostested or thought we were moving too fast, and we both knew what we wanted.
We aren’t perfect, and we’ve disagreed on things before– but never the stuff that truly matters. We are right on the same page with the big stuff. It’s petty crap, but we’re human.
We haven’t been married a long time– but I wouldn’t change a thing. We’re very similar in all the right ways and actually really like spending a lot of time together.
Post # 47
Like many PPs have said, I think that it really depends on the couple. People can cram an much meaningful “getting to know eachother” stuff into 6 months as it takes others 6 years to get to. I can honestly say that my Fiance and I knew more about eachother and were more honest with eachother in the first month of dating than I did after over 6 years with my ex. Some people are very cautious and/or have a lot of “dealbreakers” that would cause them to leave a relationship should they arise, these people are more suited toward waiting a long time to get engaged. But waiting doesn’t guarentee anything. For people who are more tolerant and willing to stick it out despite what problems may arise, or who may have religious beliefs that are against divorce, a shorter courtship can work. For my Fiance and I, we knew almost immediately that we were in it for the long haul, we were getting asked when the wedding was after couple months of dating and our families have been on board since the beginning. We got engaged after about a year and are getting married after 4 months.
Since it has been mentioned a few times, I will say that I am not cautious of averse to marriage at all, despite there being a ton of divorces in my family. If anything, it has taught me what not to do in order to maintain a good relationship.