(Closed) Thoughts on self defense in school? Please share.

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Should a kid have to deal with being hit at school and not fight back?
    Yes : (11 votes)
    21 %
    No : (36 votes)
    69 %
    other (explain) : (5 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    i really think it depends on the situation. if the kid is getting beaten up, then yes they should be able to defend themselves. if it’s one hit and done, then they should go straight to the office and alert an adult instead of hitting back.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    There shouldn’t be any hitting in school at all.  It tells me that the kids weren’t being properly supervised.  The child shouldn’t have to stand there and get beaten up but if there is any way they could leave the situation they should.  Plu,s if they absolutely must act in self defense it should only be enough to stop the situation and not to cause more damage or escalate the fight.  I would assume there is more to the story than you are being told since the child is being suspended for multiple days.

    Post # 5
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I understand why the school has to take the stance.  I don’t think hitting someone because they hit you first is really just defending yourself.  Blocking blows, avoiding further hits is defending yourself.  You don’t get to hit someone just because they hit you first.  If it were an adult it would be assualt and both parties could be charged. 

    That being said, if my daughter got hit at school and hit someone back I doubt I would punish her at home.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @beachbride1216:  it’s not necessarily a supervision problem. when i was in school, kids got into fights. adults can’t watch every kid all of the time. it would usually happen during lunch or after school. the campus of my middle school and high school were pretty large so it was easy for a fight to begin and end before any adults found out. i agree with everything else you said though.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I am in the camp of, keep your hands to yourself.  You don’t hit another child if they hit you first – you go and tell the teacher.  Two wrongs don’t make a right.  Nobody should be touching anyone else.   

    He didn’t have to “sit there and take it;” he is in a building filled with adults. 

     

     

     

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    If it gets past one hit or it’s a child that continues to have issues then it’s a supervision problem.    Usually a fight escalates from arguing to yelling to punching.  Where is the teacher when that is going on?  Most of the fights that occured while I was in school were in the halls and the lunchroom where there are few if any teachers present.

    A hit is a hit but a fight is more than that and I do think both children should be punished because in the real world both people end up in jail and can be charged with battery.  It’s one thing if the first child is holding down the other but in most cases the second child can easily walk away from the situation and suspending both children encourages kids to walk away rather than fight and then argue self defense.

    I wouldn’t punish my child at home and while I wouldn’t be happy with the school’s punishment of my child, I would explain to my child that it’s comparable to being arrested by the police for battery when you are older.  I would encourage them to protect themself but if there is a way out of a fight then they should always take that option first.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If someone hits you, you don’t hit back.  That’s a terrible thing to teach your kids.  That’s why both kids get in trouble — they have both done something wrong.  At my school, the kids who initiates the fight usually gets in more trouble — suspended for five days instead of three (or whatever, sometimes it’s 3:1, or 10:5…depends on the kids).  But if the kid hits back, he/she gets in trouble.  

    The bigger problem is why there was a fight in the first place.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @peachacid:  +1  

     

    I don’t think it’s a huge deal a fight happened.  these are little kids we are talking about.  boys, no less.  A teacher can’t be watching every kid at every second.  Have you seen teh size of classes today?  I do not think there is a supervision problem.  This is a behavioral problem.  A child that is 10 years old should know it is wrong to hit back.  Therefore, they are both in trouble.

     

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Mmm…I’m a big believer in self-defense. It’s not always easy to “just walk away,” and often the instigator will just find another place and time to start things. You hit me, I hit you back and end it.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @vorpalette:  from kidshealth.org  

     

    Many people think of self-defense as a karate kick to the groin or jab in the eyes of an attacker. But self-defense actually means doing everything possible to avoid fighting someone who threatens or attacks you. Self-defense is all about using your smarts — not your fists. 

    People who are threatened and fight back “in self-defense” actually risk making a situation worse. The attacker, who is already edgy and pumped up on adrenaline — and who knows what else — may become even more angry and violent. The best way to handle any attack or threat of attack is to try to get away. This way, you’re least likely to be injured.

     

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @vorpalette:  +1

     

    I was bullied in elementary school. Luckily it was almost exclusively taunting and public humiliation, but there were a few instances of “accidental” bumping or tripping in the hallway. I was terrified of getting caught alone in an isolated corner of the playground just in case it did get more physical. However, if it did get to that point, I was prepared to hit back. The only reason they got away with their bullying was because I wasn’t the sarcastic bitch I can be today, and the teachers couldn’t really do much when it was my word against groups who lied for each other. If they escalated to physical abuse, that was a language I could speak just as well as they could, and I wouldn’t have tolerated it. 

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