(Closed) Thoughts on "the Chive"?

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Post # 48
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Buzzing bee

MrsFiveOh:  As far as the thigh gap galleries it’s not all unhealthy unattainable bodies. It’s about posing and knowing angles.

A friend of mine is a semi professional model and posted a before and after picture referring to “the gap.” She’s a pinup model, and so not stick thin, and she definitely doesn’t have a natural gap. But by standing and doing the booty pop pose, suddenly there’s a gap.

If you’ve ever looked at these pictures most of the women are doing the same sort of posing. Feet slightly apart, butt pushed outward. I can even do it and I’m a size 18

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

a_day_at_the_fair:  I do have a “thigh gap” and a “bikini bridge” and you can even see my ribs when I’m wearing a swim suit- it’s just the way I’m built. im not saying this because I’m bitter and feel bad about myself over the galleries. Those kinds of images and comments DO NOT promote a healthy body image and DO shame women and make them feel bad about their bodies.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

MrsFiveOh:  I don’t know what a “bikini bridge” is so I can’t speak to that but having a thigh gap doesn’t mean you are unhealthy. So pictures of it aren’t promoting unhealthy body images.

If pictures of healthy attractive women that happen to have thigh gaps shame someone or make them feel bad about their bodies, it’s not about the picture. It’s about the person. 

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee

MrsFiveOh: Honestly I see more shaming of women in threads on the bee (including this one) than on “mind the gap” posts on the chive.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee

MrsFiveOh:  Nobody is telling them they should look like that. 

I’ll never have Dear Daughter boobs, seeing other women with huge boobs makes me sad, so they should all cover up because I don’t have huge boobs?!

And now you have a problem with the word attractive? Seriously? You’re right, men look at those gallaries beause those women are trolls. Get real.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee

vericari:  right? I could have posted about fifty other articles, too, but that’s the first one I found. 

 

AwkwardCoconut:  but that’s the thing! The word attractive is being used over and over on this thread when describing women with thigh gaps, which is the exact issue! Having a gap between your thighs is not what makes you attractive! And thinking it is is what is detrimental to women’s self esteem. 

Edited to add: people don’t starve themselves to get huge boobs. 

Post # 56
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Bumble bee

MrsFiveOh:  I get what you are saying. But if you are defining your beauty by one body part that’s on you, not some picture. 

I don’t have DDs and I know I’m still attractive to my Darling Husband so I don’t get all crazy about boobs gallery on some app. It’s still okay for others to have nice boobs and I’m not upset and it doesn’t make me feel bad about my body. 

To me, it sounds like you are shaming those with a thigh gap. I don’t go on those galleries much because I love cats but from what I have seen, we aren’t dealing with women with anorexia. It’s normal women that happen to have a thigh gap.

Post # 57
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Bumble bee

OP, I found a solution. Just swap theCHIVE app for theBERRY app. Apparently, it’s the female version. Still has all the same funny stuff but half naked dudes instead. 

 

 

Post # 58
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Bumble bee

AwkwardCoconut:  I’m not talking specifically about the women in the photos, I’m taking about how the site idealizes women who have it. I’m not shaming the women at all- I think that claim is a bit far-fetched since I already stated that I look like that myself. Even if any woman can pop out their booty and create a gap (which they can’t but thats beside the point) the “thigh gap” craze isn’t becauae women want to spread their legs and pop out their booty, it’s because they want to be thin enough to have it all the time. The chive isn’t responsible for the craze (or maybe it is, I have no idea how it started) but it perpetuates it. They make shirts that say “mind the gap” which seriously just makes me cringe; it is so offensive. I just don’t feel we should idealize any one body type- whether that be big boobs or a gaping dick sized hole between one’s legs (just read that on urban dictionary; gag) but the thigh gap thing has encouraged many women to starve themselves in order to attain it. That’s not something that should be celebrated. 

Post # 59
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Bumble bee

Society is finally getting to a point where we’re celebrating healthy bodies rather than stick thin ones, and idealizing “thigh gaps” is a step back (even though lots of healthy women have them, too)

edited to add: before someone comments, I know there’s a whole issue with skinny shaming, too, but it’s irrelevant to what I’m saying. There’s nothing wrong with being skinny, heavy, curvy,  boney, muscular. You do you. 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee

MrsFiveOh:  I totally understand your point of view. I’m all about celebrating healthy bodies. So I think we are in the same camp. 

But I think thigh gaps and stick thin people are included and shouldn’t be made to feel weird or bad about themselves. 

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