(Closed) Thoughts on the ring I got her? Also proposal advice? I am struggling to wait…

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 46
1178 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

write the proposal in the sand?

Post # 47
2873 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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andthen:  You sound like a sweet guy and the ring is GORGEOUS!!

I think it is so awesome that you are so excited that you can’t wait to propose.  My friend’s now Fiance went through something similar.  He got the ring a couple of weeks ahead of schedule and had planned on proposing right before Christmas so she had the ring to show off for the holidays.  He had me keep the ring at my house so he wasn’t tempted to grab it and propose while she was brushing her teeth.  Many ladies would not have minded a proposal like that, but my guy friend wanted something a bit more elaborate for himself.  He kept his original plan of proposing 2 days before Christmas.

If you are the cheesy romantic and think YOU would be disappointed just doing it while in bed, then keep your original idea of proposing on the beach then meeting up with her family.  This is your proposal too.

Post # 48
2842 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

Also I like your idea of proposing on the beach! It will make the trip extra special. You went all out on the ring, might as well not skimp on the thought behind the proposal! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 49
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Another vote for your original proposal idea. It comes from the heart and is what YOU thought of to do. There are good ideas here, but at the end of the day, it would just mean more to me to have a proposal that was what my Fiance thought would be perfect for me than what people on an internet forum recommended.

Post # 50
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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andthen:  First of all, congratulations! You chose a beautiful ring and more than anything, it sounds like you are so excited to do it, it will be special no matter what.

I know my Fiance would understand how you feel, because the first thing he did after he proposed (aside from kissing me!) was have a drink!!! He told me holding on to that ring for weeks and then also on the day that he proposed (it was in his pocket the whole day, how I didn’t notice I seriously do not know!), was the most stressful and nerve-wracking thing he’s ever done. He said that when he wasn’t worrying about me finding the ring, he was worried about losing the ring! I felt so bad for him, everything he was planning was going wrong that day!!! In the end, it all worked out though, and we have a funny story to tell.

He did do it in front of friends, and one thing I never expected, was my reaction. I got soooo nervous in front of other people, I started doing this sort of nervous giggling/laughing/crying thing that was seriously not cute! I honestly didn’t know how to react. I think it would’ve been better just me and him, and there wouldn’t be video evidence of my reaction either! So definitely, make sure that it is in a private spot. I personally think proposals are better in private. I would do it before you see her family, so they don’t psych you out!

I vote for sooner rather than later, but I also don’t know her and you do, so in the end, do what feels more natural and personal for you two. The proposal has to be YOU, so make it something that feels authentic to who you are. If you are cheesy, be cheesy!

Post # 51
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Since she is not one for big fancy proposals, I would do the roll over and propose!  She is probably expecting it will happen on the trip so you can catch her off guard.  Anyway, what if the ring falls in the water?  LOL

I knew my proposal was coming so I had my nails all manicured and ready!  Then the day it happened I had given up hope.  I took off my nail polish, took a shower, and crawled into bed.  This is when he decided to do it!  I didn’t even have a bra on!  LOL.  All I really wanted were words from his heart and that’s what I got.  It was very special and heartfelt and we cried together afterwards.  It will be special no matter what you choose.  And the ring is lovely!

Post # 52
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I love the ring!!!!!  Of course, it’s the EXACT same ring as mine ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 54
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Aw so sweet!! I love that you are even posting on here. I LOVE that ring, absolutely beautiful. She’s going to be so happy not just cause of the ring but you are making it so special and really care. I love the beach idea, bed is cute too but I got engaged on the beach at sunset & it was so romantic. I love the idea you had with frames. Congrats in advance!! You sound like a great guy shes lucky. 

Post # 55
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Theater

Ultimately, she’ll decide if she likes her ring and your proposal. We bees don’t know you or her. In the end unless she’s a horrid witch which I’m sure she’s not since you’re putting a ring on her finger, it should all be lovely and nice. Go with your gut instinct.

For the record, my wife rolled over in bed and proposed BEFORE she brought me my morning coffee. Risky, I could’ve said no because of not having had coffee, lol!

Post # 56
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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andthen:  Wow- what a ring! My jaw literally dropped open- so pretty! Congratulations! I also want to say you sounds so in love with your lady and your responses have been so sweet I am sure whatever you are planning will be perfect.

My only advice is that if you really think you can’t wait for the Beach/Family proposal then I loved your local hike to a waterfall idea! That way it’s truely a suprise since even you didnt think you’d be proposing this early and it has a special element ๐Ÿ˜‰ Congratulations again!

Post # 57
2111 posts
Buzzing bee

It’s an absolutely beautiful ring. 

I’m all for bringing the date forward. If now is a good time you should go for it. You never know what the future holds and something may happen around the beach trip that could make for poor timing for a proposal. 

A friend of mine has had an engagement ring hidden for the past 2 months to propose on their anniversary which is next week and has been counting down the days. However, yesterday her father got admitted to hospital and it doesn’t look good. Obviously, she isn’t the wiser about the proposal but he is kicking himself he waited. 

Regardless of how or when you do it though I’m sure she will be thrilled and love the ring! 

Post # 58
4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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andthen:  You dont think she would be disapointed if I rolled over and did it? I always felt the proposal needed to be big.

Only you can tell since you know her. But to be honest, lots of women like subtle proposals and don’t need a “pinterest-worthy” story. ๐Ÿ™‚ My husband technically didn’t really “propose.” We were on the couch booking a vacation online and he said “Hey, while we are there, wanna get married?” Completely informal and no ring (ring came later). It was perfect. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 59
19 posts

First of all I want to congratulate you on your future proposal and the though behind your ring and even posting on here asking for advice. She is one lucky lady. As for your proposal, i think its a great idea to do it when on vacation with family, especially if you know it will make it that much more special. If you want to do it on a beach, have you though of specifics? Do you want to do it during the day or sun set, evening when it might be more intimate? Have you though about about how you will pull her aside from the family without raising concern, or is that not an issue. If its nice you could prepare a blanket and some wine and watch the sunset, propose then. Also think about after, maybe plan ahead to have a nice dinner after the proposal with family. Some people would love to walk into a room filled with people they love to celebrate their engagement. Lastly this is taking it far but, and i dont know where you are located but if you can have fireworks on the beach after, you can take some pretty pictures with that (ofcourse depending on camera quality/lighting). Anyways no matter when/how she will be extremely happy! Good Luck

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