(Closed) Thoughts on Wedding Planners?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have a lot of people pushing me for a wedding planner right now.

At first, I thought that I’d just use whatever coordinator the venue gave us but now, we have a venue that doesn’t provide any sort of planner/coordinator/person. So, I’m thinking it might be a good idea.

I think it depends on a lot of things. What is most important to you? Do you want to do a lot of these things yourself? It does take a lot of time and effort and money to track down vendors, meet with them and compare prices and such but it isn’t by any means, unmanagable.

Especially if you can be organized and have a good support system (mothers and moms of grooms are great like that).

I would, at the very least, highly recommend that you have a “day of” go-to person. Whether it’s a sister or a good friend or guest of honor that’s organized and can be trusted or whether it’s someone you would pay.

I’ve worked with a lot of wedding planners. Some are good, some are really good, some are really really good and then others….not so much. One woman I worked with had the day planned down to the minute (best man speech 6:15-6:17, Maid/Matron of Honor speech 6:17-6:19) and actually executed those deadlines almost to a tee.

That’s the great thing about people who do it professionally– they are skilled and adept at executing wedding days in a timely and efficient manner and help everyone breathe a little bit easier.These are also the people who know about things like legalities, necessary permits, insurance…stuff like that, that’s really where they come in handy.

I would definitely say they are worth it if you are planning a big wedding or complex wedding with lots of specific elements that you need.

But if you are planning a simple wedding at an all inclusive venue (a lot of venues include a coordinator!) or something like a backyard wedding for no more than 80-100 people. I don’t think you need a planner, just a few very organized friends and family members (and walkie talkies!) and a very specific itinerary.

As far as prices, it depends what you want. For an all inclusive planner in CA, it runs anywhere from $2000-$10,000 (I know!!! I wish!!). They will help with venues, caterers, wedding invitations, logistics, late night panicked calls about that dream you had where you walked down the aisle naked. They will handle everything.

Day of planners here usually run about $500-$1500. I think they’re a happy medium between the all out planner and the DIY route. They make sure that your vendors are in and out on time, that the cake is set up, the people get paid and handle any day-of emergencies (like that Thai restaurant you picked for your rehearsal dinner not setting well with you, or the bridal bouquet getting run over by the catering truck– I’ve seen it!).

In the mid-west, I’m sure it’s considerably less expensive (as most things are in the midwest). But I would still shop around, google planner prices in your area and figure out if there’s room in your budget for it.

It’s not the end of the world if you don’t have one. Designate an honored guest to be your planner (I’d reccommend getting them a little somethin for their trouble but that’s up to)–someone not in the wedding party and not your parents.

Good luck!


Post # 4
3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

We have a wedding planner and it’s certainly been a different experience than expected.

I used to watch David Tutera’s My Fair Wedding all the time.  I absolutely LOVE him!  He not only coordinates and plans the logistics for everything, but he also designs and decorates the wedding and all the details.  My wedding planner doesn’t do any of the latter.  She pretty much only takes care of vendor recommendations and logistics.  That’s not to say she isn’t worth it, but I’m not really getting the full package that I expected.

We’re getting married in RI but we live in MD.  So, having a planner has saved our lives.  I can’t imagine doing all of this again without her.  She’s really come through for us on a number of things, including finding our venue and saving us thousands of dollars with her connections.  She basically paid for herself this way.  Her fee was $3500, and she’ll have worked with us for 14 months come the wedding day.

Post # 5
255 posts
Helper bee

@SockJunkie:  +1. I’m a wedding planner and I couldn’t have said this better. 

Post # 6
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We had a month-of coordinator, although really, it was more like a rehearsal and day-of coordinator. I didn’t need her to contact or vet out any vendors and the majority of my vendors were already familiar with the space and each other, so that helped cut down on logistical issues.

That being said, I absolutely would push for a day-of coordinator if you have the budget for it. It’s nice having someone that’s not caught up in the energy/magic of the day (unlike a friend or family member) that can keep an eye out on everything and make sure things are running smoothly. She acted like our baby sitter, and made sure we got from point A to B and that we were never thirsty/starving/etc. Even Darling Husband thought the world of her and was really thankful we hired her.

I think ours charged about $950 or so for day-of coordination. It was like an extra $100 or something to add on the month. The other two I contacted were about $1k for day-of too, but I think this varies depending on the region. Everything here tends to be pricier.

Post # 7
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We are having one. My DH’s freshman sister (they were in band together) is our coordinator. She’s a day of. The best part is she’s agreed to do it for free. But we have allocated $450 in the budget for her. She’s even bringing two people to work with her.

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