Thoughts on weekday weddings?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Agree with PP’s that said Friday evening weddings don’t count as a weekday to me. Also DH always works Saturdays and Sundays, as do many other people I know. Not everyone works 9-5 Monday-Friday. So weekday weddings don’t really bother me. 

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I don’t go unless its an extremely close friend or family member. Fridays are okay as long as they’re later in the evening, Sundays i really dislike because that’s my “chill” day. Week nights (mon-thur) I will almost never attend. 

Post # 48
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Sugar bee

I woudn’t go to a Monday – Thursday (or Sunday evening) wedding unless it was a very close friend or family member.   

But if the Bride and Groom are fine with a lot of ‘no’s on their RSVPs then that’s up to them. 

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I wouldn’t take off to go to a weekday wedding (and I am meaning morning/afternoon weddings, and not Friday nights) for anyone unless it was a SUPER close family member. Like, basically a sibling and that’s it. Sunday weddings are good if they’re early afternoon.

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper

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apresallday :  Without looking at others posts first I’m ok with it in theory and I have to be because we had a Friday wedding ourselves.  Our venue was booked solid even before a year in advance so our choices were Friday, close to Thanksgiving or Halloween. So Friday it was. I wanted Saturday so bad but they were gone. I’ve never been invited to a Monday one I think that would be ok for a brunch wedding if I had enough extra PTO.  Mid week isn’t doable for me unless I had to travel anyway and could make a mini trip out of it or was for a close friend or family member. So it really depends. 

So I’m fine with it with advance notice and I might feel different if I had a ton of weddings to go to. 

Post # 51
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Blushing bee

I was a bridesmaid in a Thursday wedding. I lived a couple states away and very difficult for me to attned. Friday could be okay depending on how many out of town guests you’ll have. I’m having a Sunday wedding which could also inconvenience our guests. We’re having a daytime ceremony in hopes that if anyone needs to travel Sunday night they’ll be able to. 

Post # 52
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Bumble bee

My ex and I had a Friday evening wedding that also happened to fall on a holiday weekend (Labor Day). We did save some money by having it on a Friday, but that really wasn’t the reason why we ended up doing that. Turn out was great. Everyone we expected to come did. For most guests the car trip was maybe 30-40 mins. 

My brother recently got married (on a Sat afternoon) and they chose to do it out of state and most guests had to drive 2+hrs each way. I felt that was more inconvienent than doing it locally on a Friday. 

Post # 53
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Busy bee

I don’t mind Friday night for the most part. I prefer it over Sunday night weddings. 

Mon-Thursday is awful unless its a destination and guest are taking time off from work anyway. 

 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I wouldn’t go to a weekday wedding unless it was for someone in my inner circle and I’d still prob be irked about it. Future Brother-In-Law is getting married on a Friday and I’m not sure how I’m going to swing it because I’m using all my vacation time for my honeymoon this year.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’ve been to a Friday wedding and it doesn’t bother me anymore than a Saturday wedding (if it’s local, I don’t need to use PTO).

I’ve never been to a weekday wedding. If it was local, I’d go and leave after cake.

If I have to take time off for traveling, I’d only for a sibling or best friend!

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2021

Personally, I don’t like weekday weddings, for some reason a wedding is most definitely a ‘Saturday’ thing..

in saying that, we may be forced to have a weekday wedding as we are set on having an intimate wedding (less than 50) and in our city decent venues/restaurants will only do smaller events from Monday to Thursday, as they’d lose money taking a 50 person wedding over 120 people, or you end up paying a ridiculous surcharge. I’d hope though with enough notice that our most important people would make it work. 

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I got married on a Tuesday, but it definitely wasn’t what I wanted.  At the time DH was in the military and we had to get married whenever he had block leave, which was at Christmas.  Due to travel schedules (we did not live in the same part of the country at the time) and the holidays, the Tuesday after Christmas was the only day we could make it work.  

We could have waited until the following Saturday, but that would have given us 2 days of marriage before he left again for another 10 months….in which time I saw him for a whopping total of 4 days.  Soooo….I’d be a little hypocritcal if I said I had an issue with weekday weddings, when I had one myself.  We were VERY understanding of those who didn’t come and very grateful for those that were able to make it.

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I’m doing a Thursday evening wedding. The day was chosen because it was originally a courthouse affair, but then we shifted to just doing it at the restaurant we’re holding our reception in. Our Save-The-Date Cards had already gone out though. We live across the country from our families, so the Thursday wedding is really for our local friends. Our parents and some siblings are flying in and then we’ve invited 4 out of state people, plus their respective dates, to fly in.

I have already made it clear that I completely understand if our out of state guests can’t attend. We’re having a party on the east coast in November that they’re invited to as well. I knew going in that we would potentially have a lower number of guests attend doing it on a Thursday, but we only invited 50 people anyway, so I never envisioned a huge party regardless. 🙂 

Post # 59
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Worker bee

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apresallday :  I attended a Wednesday wedding and it was fine! It was small (15 guests) and we knew wayyyy in advance. The date happened to fall on a Wednesday but the date meant a lot to the bride and groom. They had the ceremony on a Wed and reception on a Sat, where more people were able to attend. It was also local, but I know they had quite a few travel to be present at ceremony and reception.

My wedding will be on a Friday night, based on availability of the venue and our schedule. We let our guests know 8 months in advance about the date with the STD cards since quite a bit will be traveling. Our families plan to spend the next day with us before we leave Sunday morning for our honeymoon. That’s the nice part of having a Friday reception and a slightly delayed honeymoon! More time with friends and family without having to cramp it all in one night.

 

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I would not be a fan of attending one. I don’t get home from work until 5 and my husband and I won’t leave our dog home alone in the evening if he’s been alone all day so we would have to drive him to one of our parents before the wedding. If I was willing to do this I’d probably not stay late because I’d be tired and still have to get the dog on the way home.

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