Post # 61
I did consider a weekday ceremony when we thought it might be just immediate family because, by luck of retirements and seasonal jobs, I would actually be the only person who would have to take the time off of work. But once we decided to do a real reception with friends and extended family, I nixed the weekday idea. We’re open to a Friday since that would maybe just mean asking some people to take off one day of work to travel, and local people could come after work or leave work early. I will not do a Sunday. I went to one Sunday wedding and everyone left early because they had to get to work the next morning – the bride was visibly disappointed and trying to persuade people to stay.
Post # 62
Friday evening ceremonies don’t bother me as much, but they do still require me to leave work a little early to get ready and use my PTO.
Any other day of the week is difficult, because you generally need to leave work a little early the day of the wedding to get ready and then possibly take the next day off or go in a few hours late. That requires me to use PTO and I like to save that for vacations or emergencies, not weddings.
If I was invited to a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday wedding I would likely decline. And if I did go, I would likely leave early. I imagine a wedding on a weekday would be more low-key or intimate, as people are not going to be as interested in partying since they have to work the next day.
Post # 63
If a wedding is at a poor time for you, don’t go. No need to get worked up about it.
My second wedding was on a Sunday, and no one seemed to have any trouble with it. Most people who traveled for it were teachers or retired, and it was summer, so they were already off. Others in town had no issue, and it was at 5 so it was over in plenty of time for no problem for work the next day.
My third wedding (my second husband passed away) was on a Monday, but it was New Years Day and it was very intimate–only 23 people came, and we only invited about 30. Everyone was off for the weekend/New Years Day anyway, and most were from the area, so it worked out just fine. And the people who couldn’t come, I understood.