Post # 77
Ok, now your post got me thinking about THIS thread. Mr. Bee asked for imput, but several Bees (including me) are coming back to the thread to respond to others and to give our perspective on what others had to say.
We didn’t just come, throw our opinion out there, and leave.
Is this threadjacking the Threadjacking thread?
Post # 78
I am sorry you are upset by those posts and I totally understand, but they are posting about not wanting a baby and I am sure that is evident by the title of the post. I am not planning on having anymore children, but when I was it was difficult for me to concieve and keep the baby without miscarrying. Those posts don’t offend me beause I choose not to visit them. If it is not evident by the title of the post, then I might go in and start reading only to find out the post is something that I don’t want to read, so I just close out the post. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and they do bring up some valid points. The points are just not something that I let rule my decision to have kids. As long as the post stays on point and doesn’t get hostile, I don’t see a problem with them posting on that board or any other board. JMHO
I am reading the “bullying” and the “flaming” as basically the same thing.
Post # 79
Right- isn’t it natural to read the thread and respond to where it is going?
Post # 80
eh… I’m not really into censorship. I think the mods do a good job of stepping in when needed. If someone is repeatedly nasty then I think a pm reminding them to play nice would suffice. I’d actually wouldn’t mind if we had a debate board here on wb.
Post # 81
Guys, I think the point here is threadjacking – ie person A says “here is my experience on something” and then person B says “that’s dumb, you’re wrong” and then person C says “hey, don’t call her dumb!” (not pointing fingers) and then person B and C get into a huge fight and person A comes back to a big mess.
I think the idea here is everyone responds to person A and person B and C are free to start their OWN debate thread if they see fit (which everyone else can kindly not click on). I don’t imagine we are talking about ending debate entirely, but rather staying on topic? I think?
Post # 82
I don’t think that “continuing to post your difference of opinion, in order to try to find a compromise and some common ground” would constitute threadjacking. I think that what you are talking about is a debate or a compromise.
Post # 83
I think we’re all adults and this is an adult forum. If someone’s feelings get hurt then they can be adults about it and handle it. I don’t like censorship.
Post # 84
Ok their seems to be some confusion about threadjacking. Here is a definition:
To take over the content of a message thread by changing the subject of discourse to a topic outside the purview of the original subject and/or forum, while maintaining the subject line. A form of amusement for trolls. Threadjacking is distinguished from flaming, as flames are a quasi-personal attack on a poster or on a poster’s style of discourse, where threadjacking is deliberatly steering the discussion offtopic.”
Post # 85
Agreed. my issue is when Person B is saying “you’re dumb” it is hard not to become person C. Person B needs to be warned and eventually punished!
Post # 87
Do it, Mr. Bee! I think we have something unique in our supportive, accepting community and it’s something worth protecting; if people won’t police themselves, then an outside force (i.e. moderators) are going to have to step in and do it for them.
Post # 88
That’s why I think there should be a debate board. These debate threads should be welcomed somewhere on the board, in their own section. Also, it would provide some leniency by allowing the debating to still exist, but not have total censorship where people’s threads/post are deleted. It would really help tidy things up IMO. Just a simple *comment moved to debate section*
Post # 89
I dunno…but I’m not sure “thread-jacking” is going to be very easy to determine, and other posters have made this point already. I think the problem is that some people can’t help but be unkind (either intentionally or not), and its hard not to defend yourself when you feel attacked.
I don’t know what the solution is, and I’m not sure if a thread jacking policy would really accomplish what you want it to. I’m not totally against it, I just feel like maybe the idea needs to be flushed out a little more.
Post # 90
@Tunacupcakes:That’s why I think there should be a debate board.
yes yes YES!!!! It seems like such an easy solution, I don’t understand why we’re not doing it. I know a lot of people are saying they’re not bothered by the debating, but a lot of other posters clearly are and I think that’s where the concern with censorship is coming from. It’s easy to confuse honest debating with “baiting” and “threadjacking.” That’s certainly where my fear comes from.
Post # 91
Totally agree.. but that’s when you take a deep breath and step away from the computer screen 😉
Totally agree! Of course we can still not have personal attacks and whatnot.. but at least people who just want feedback on their dress or whatever can know where NOT to read..
I think the idea is if you feel attacked, flag that person’s post (instead of replying in a heated/potentially debate-inducing way), and hope the mods will swoop in and end it.
Can we also outlaw LOLcatz? 😉 Kidding, kidding…