Post # 1
i’m a regular poster but i don’t feel comfortable talking about this with my regular username due to the sensitive content.
my husband and i were married this past summer and are really enjoying our new life together. here’s the problem (i guess you could call it a problem!). my mom went through early menopause at an age that is only a few years older than i currently am. also, my older sister has never had children. i know that nothing is guaranteed, but i am terrified that i am quickly approaching this age as well and am worried that i might have the same issues. my husband and i are not necessarily ready for children (if only because we both really like sleep a lot!) at this time but are both feeling pressured and rushed to begin TTC right now to not waste any more time. i know that this is not ideal but neither of us are willing to miss our chance to have children just to get to that place of magically feeling “ready.” does that make any sense? are you ever really ready to have children? i feel like i’m rambling. how do i get past feeling rushed? i’m excited but i am SO nervous and i think my husband is even more nervous. i think he was just getting used to being a husband!
Post # 3
I’ve been told by SO many friends/family that you never really feel “ready” because there’s always something more you could do, there’s more money you could save, and I don’t think you’ll ever get enough of sleeping in. 🙂 If you’re feeling rushed, maybe start with setting a date in the future that you would like to start trying. You could also make a list of things you want to do before becoming parent.s That way you have a plan. Remember, even after you conceive, the baby won’t arrive for another 9 months. Also remember, you are NOT the only one who feels this way. I want to start TTC this summer and I am both extremely excited and TERRIFIED at the same time!
Post # 4
@timeforbaby: Not really the same situation at all, but I am 31 and got married this past May. I have watched so many of my friends/siblings struggle with TTC that I didn’t want to be in the same situation. I had a friend who started trying at 36 and used fertility treatments and ended up with triplets (which she had to reduce to twins for health reasons). She ended up with such a complicated pregnancy, but luckiy the twins are healthy! But in watching other people’s struggles, I didn’t want the same for me. Although I don’t feel a deep desire for a baby RIGHT NOW per say, I know I do want children so I opted to go ahead with it. I’m currently 12.5 weeks pregnant and happy, but still nervous about how life is going to change once baby comes 😉 I’m sure a lot of people feel perfectly ready, I am just not one of those people. I just knew adding a new addition to the family a little earlier than I would plan in an ideal world is a million times better than the struggles of trying to conceive later. Good luck to you!
Post # 5
There is a test called AMH that tests how far away from menopause you are…It’s your ovarian egg reserve. I don’t know how you feel about having a test done (it’s just one vial of blood) but that would tell you if you have anything to worry about. If it’s fine, then you wouldn’t have to feel rushed anymore:) And if it says your worst fears, at least you can make an educated decision. It might sound extreme, but I just wanted you to know there’s a test for it. I’m Type A so I’d rather just know the facts:) Good luck!
Post # 6
My best friend’s mom went through menopause at 29. She started showing some signs that she would as well about 3 years ago. She is currently 4 months pregnant! It can happen for you!
Post # 7
thank you guys so much for your replies! it means a lot!
@amelieisme: i totally feel the same about feeling nervous about how life will change once baby arrives! but i agree – i’d rather go ahead now and have a baby maybe a little earlier than planned than struggle later and maybe not be able to have one later!
@skipper2010: it’s good to know we aren’t the only ones feeling this way!!!
@AirForceWife78: that is awesome!! good luck to her!
@jholler25: i’m definitely going to look into AMH testing. i’m so type A and that’s why i’m kind of in a panic right now.