(Closed) Three’s beginning to be a crowd- vent

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@sherryberry: Tell your Fiance that its time his brother stood on his own two feet. Him being there is not worth the detriment to your relationship.

Post # 4
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

wow, i dont’ know how you deal!  FI and i spent only 4 days at home with my family over christmas and i was missing snuggling and being cute and kissy.  Its more my hang up than his, but still, after 4 days i w as going crazy


Post # 6
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sherryberry: A family member of FI’s lived with us for over a year. he left a few months ago. While he was not a ‘horrible’ house guest, I got mighty sick of it mighty fast. My Fiance also acted differently when the family member was around. It caused many fights and we did not get along for several months towards the end of his stay. Fiance and I have not had a bad fight since he left. (coincidence? uh no).

My only advice is to make sure he is gone before the wedding. I flat out told my Fiance that I was sick of it, and he must be out before the wedding. Thankfully it did not come to that. I didn’t care how hard up the family member was, he has a full time job and is capable of living on his own. I refused to be a newlywed with a roommate. Sometimes you just have to stick up for yourself and not give up.

Post # 7
193 posts
Blushing bee

@sherryberry: call you Fiance out on it in front of your Future Brother-In-Law. Something like “im sick of this macho SOB that you turn into when Future Brother-In-Law is around. grow up” then walk out.

Hopefully het gets the idea that he is being a crap Fiance and snaps out of it.

Post # 8
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Future Brother-In-Law lived with us for seven (LONG) months. My partner was having problems with it. His brother didn’t work and sat around teh house. He wasn’t leaving the house (i’m sure depression had something to do with it) but would watch shows we hated or play videogames ALL DAY LONG. The worst was when he plays videogames, he plays poorly and YELLS so freakin’ loud – not always a huge issue, but it would stop my partner from sleeping. Also, I would be at another end of the house with the door shut and people could hear when I was on the phone (working a crisis hotline! That’s embaressing and so uncalled for. Just don’t scream for four hours. Am I asking for too much?). He would eat food I made and paid for, and then leave a mess. 

I hate ulitatiums but finally gave my partner one. I couldn’t deal much longer and started to look for apartments. Then it got the point where my partner thought about moving too (and this is HIS house). I said it was enough at that point. Sadly, my partner had problems doing it and had to involve the parents. Explaining that we were getting engaged (we had ordered my ring at that point) seemed to help the most.

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