(Closed) "Three Huge Mistakes We Make Leading Kids…"

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree, I am personally 39 years old and have a 17 month old child. My Darling Husband and I are trying to raise him like how we were raised. None of this helicopter parent crap. 

There is way to much sense of entitlement in kids/young adults these days.  I have read and heard stories of college graduates instead working their way up in a company. They expect and demand to be at the highest pay and placement for a job instead of entry level.  It blows my mind to see this.

 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This article is spot on.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I definitely agree! It’s in our nature as mothers many times to protect our kids and help give them confidence but I couldn’t agree more that many parents reward & praise their kids for absolutely nothing! Your kid is not a genius because he went to the bathroom in the big kid potty at 4 years old.

I also think the risk aversion is huge in contributing to the child growing up with anxiety. Totally a speculation for me obviously, but I didn’t take too many risks growing up & my mom definitely was protective because she worked for the police department and saw ALL the bad going on…I am now a very anxious adult & I also assume the worst very often. I think the risk aversion as a child contributed to this, though I don’t know how much obviously. Just a guess.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

As a former kindergarten teacher I wholeheartedly agree.

Once while we were cleaning up at the end of the day, I took a toy away from a child. She cried. I told her she would be able to play later and continued cleaning up, ignoring her. Apparently this was too much for her mother who rushed in and pulled out TWO TOYS from her purse to “rescue” her child. 

Guess who constantly cries at school to get her way now? 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@AlwaysSunny:  God bless you being a teacher. I would be fired because I wouldn’t be able to NOT tell parents they suck at raising children lol

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you are anti-helicopter parenting, you have to read Free Range Kids. I dont have kids yet, but I read the blog all the time.

 

http://www.freerangekids.com/

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@soontobemrsm11:  Haha well I teach at a teacher’s college now so things are a bit easier.

What’s really unfortunate is the difficult choice that primary teachers have today.

Do I give in to the parent who may remove their child or complain if they see them crying? Or do I indulge the kids with bad behavior so they are happy and I don’t have problems with the parents? 

It’s this motivation that has brought about the age of “EVERYBODY WINS!” 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Great read! Thanks

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Very well-written. 🙂 I remember hearing about some of the cited research in my psych classes in college, glad the word is being spread because parenting/teaching/coaching like that really does a disservice to kids.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I’m not even a parent, (yet), but this article was great! I definitely agree that most parents do these three things WAYYYYY more than they ever should.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This is spot on. I teach 4th grade and it is very easy to tell which kids have parents that do these things (most of them, unfortunately). I wish I could print this out and give it to parents on parent/teacher conference night.

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