- 9 years ago
Okay, so my dad was very absent in my childhood (worked alot, etc) and then when I was 8 he cheated on my mom and left her for a really trashy woman, who he later married and divorced. He is since remarried, and my step-mom is very sweet. We had a really bad relationship for many, many years, and often went months without speaking. We are beginning to develop a better realtionship, due in part to me letting him know how badly his poor parenting has affecting my life and my relationships.
My mom married my step-father when I was 10, and he is AMAZING. We had a very rough few years when they first married, because we’re so much alike that we get into alot of arguments. I’m my stepdaddy’s girl.
I call them BOTH Daddy, because they have both invested the same amount in my life. They have both raised me, and made me who I am. My real dad has contributed less than a dad should, and my stap-dad had contributed more than any step-dad should have to.
3rd complication: My brother. He’s the most amazing man, other than my FH, that I know, and the only man that’s been there for me since I was 16 months old. He’s handsome, kind, funny, and in the U.S.M.C. We’re very very close, and there were many years (before my step-dad came along, while my real dad was absent) where it was just me, my brother, and my mom. We’re actually waiting until January 2010 to get married so that he can be there (he’ll be in Irag from July-January)
Which brings me to this….
Can I have all 3 walk me down? Would that be tacky? Any other ideas?
I though I’d send my two daddys out first, side by side to show that they hold equal importance for me. Then my brother will escort medown the ailse. When asked who gives me away, my brother will say, "Both her fathers, her mother and I."
Also, for father daughter dance…. I want to dance with all 3. I thought I’d dance with real father to part of one song, then have the DJ fade it into another song for my brother to take over, then after part of that song, have it fade into "The Man He Didn’t Have To Be" and my stepdad take over. Does that make sense? I want to share my 1st dance with all three, and that’s the only way that makes sense.