(Closed) Three MOH?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who should I officially label maid of honour?

    sister

    all three bridesmaids

    other- see comment below

  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    What if you just forego having a Maid/Matron of Honor and have them all be bridesmaids?

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My sister was in the same situation when she was married (I was only 19) and she chose me to be her maid of honor.  It was really special for me, and I felt so important having the special title.  I didn’t do nearly as much as the other bridesmaids because I was away at college, but being named her maid of honor is something I will always treasure.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would name all 3– if you want to honor them all, you should. That’s your choice.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It sounds like your wedding might be kind of far away, since you aren’t even sure when it will be.

    I would wait til at MOST 9-12 months before the wedding to officially ask anyone. I asked right when I got engaged, about 9 months before the wedding, and I found that even pretty soon after that, my relationships with people started to change. I’m not sure that I would have asked differently, but it would have been nice to have a little more time to see where my relationships seem to be going.

    So, maybe if you wait til closer til the day, things will become a little more clear.

    Post # 7
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I have 2 MOHs and one of my other best friends had 3 at her wedding (but she had 6 total bridesmaids so the Maid/Matron of Honor title was still “special” and distinguished between bridesmaids, even though there were 3 of us!) – I don’t think there are any “rules” to this anymore and you should do whatever feels right to you!

    Post # 8
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Personally, I find it kind of silly to give all of your bridesmaids a title of Maid/Matron of Honor when you therefore are not distinguishing between them.  I’d just have your sister be Maid/Matron of Honor, even if she can’t help with as much.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Ditto FutureKMM. 

    You could also just avoid titles altogether, I guess, and just refer to them by their names and their relationship to you. (E.g. “Jane, Sister of the Bride.”)

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    1 Maid/Matron of Honor , I think when your MOHs start out numbering your BMs it gets silly

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @Mrs.KMM: Agreed. If you gave them all Maid/Matron of Honor, you might as well not give the honor to anybody. Regardless, you will have to choose ONE to be your witness, so why not just make that person be the MOH?

    My two best friends are my BMs and my Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister. There were no hurt feelings and everyone understood. I made it clear that they are all equally important to me, but in that situation my sister gets the added honor. Still, I’ve allowed them each to be involved in different ways (ie one wanted to plan the Bachelorette, the others picked the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, go to my planning appts, etc) so they can all feel like “MOHs”

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    My sister had me as her Maid/Matron of Honor and her friend as the matron and it was like steping on toes. Who does this and who does that. I could only imagine 3! It is a lot less special when there is more than one.

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