- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Three out of four of my BMs have decided on their dress. I gave them 20 dress options that had about three or four color options each. I told them I wanted them to chose what they wanted and wanted them all to be in a different dress. I also said that it’s first-come-first-serve, so once someone chooses a dress, that dress is off the table.
Well, they all chose the same dress AND in the same color. I mean, what are the chances of that? We’ll address this dess as “The Dress.”
Actually, let me clarify. BM 1 and BM 2 sent me their top three choices and BM 3 her top and only choice.
BM 1 and BM 2 chose “The Dress” as their second option, but they aren’t 100% sold on their first dress choices, so they’re leaning towards “The Dress.” BM 1’s first dress choice is sold out, but I found another seller and it’s $4.00 more. She doesn’t want to spend “that much more when it was cheaper with the other seller.” I’ve offered to pay the $4.00 myself, but she still said no. BM 2 likes her first dress choice, but she can see herself wearing “The Dress” over and over again, so she’s leaning towards that one.
BM 3 chose her dress well before the deadline and it’s her only choice. BM 1 chose her dress a week late and BM 2 on the deadline date. They saw that BM 3 chose her dress well in advance and they still went with “The Dress,” even though I said that once a dress is chosen, it is no longer up for grabs.
I honestly don’t want them all in the same dress. But, I don’t want this to be a fight. I’m still waiting to hear from BM 4 and God forbid she chooses “The Dress,” too.
I really never thought three girls would choose the same dress out of 20 choices! And oddly enough, they don’t know each other!
Thoughts on how to handle this? I don’t want to force them to wear a dress they don’t want, but why bother choosing a first dress choice, when you really like your second option? And they totally disregarded what I said about don’t choose a dress once someone has chosen it.