Post # 1
I am going to be a groom in October, and have been set on a black 3-piece suit for some time. My fiance has her dress picked out and suggested we go suit-shopping last weekend, and I found either my suit or a great predecessor to it. Since then, she has asked me if I’m sure a 3-piece suit will look formal enough (she says her dress is very formal), and was really pushing me to get a tuxedo.
I am very much against a tuxedo for a few reasons: I don’t care for the satin trim, I have never felt that rented tuxedos look or feel right on me, and I don’t see the value in purchasing a tux that I will wear maybe twice more.
Up until now I was thinking that I’d wear a black 3-piece, well-tailored suit (I’m a 31″ waist and 5’11” so a normal cut looks like a sack on me), and my guys would wear standard black 2-piece suits. We’d all have red ties and white shirts coordinated.
Will it look off-balance if my men are dressed as described, and I am in a black 3-piece, in comparison to the “formal” ladies? As the only part of the wedding that is wholly mine, and the only part that I have a strong opinion on, I just want some reassurance that the vision I’m holding onto isn’t wrong. I’m all for tweaking my accessories to maximize the formality of my suit.
Any input or example photos of 3-piece suits looking plenty formal would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
Hmm…can you give us an idea about the rest of your wedding? I don’t think your bride’s gown being formal means too much–most wedding gowns are pretty formal! But if you have a formal vibe all around, a tux may be better suited.
Where is your wedding reception? That will tell us most about the feel. Is it in the grand ballroom of a museum? Tux.
Garden party? Suit is a go!
For the record, my groom is going to wear a 3 piece suit and I think he looks rather dashing in it. 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks for the reply. When I posted my question I thought that a box I clicked on would allow me to get an email when someone sent a reply, but I guess I was mistaken.
The wedding will be at an 1800s mansion. It’s nice but it’s not over-the-top. We’ve got about 120 people and are spending around 12k between the food and the venue. Flowers and centerpieces together are well under a grand.
One of the major worries my fiance has is my groomsmen not looking alike enough if they’re all in black 2-button 2-piece suits. I think that the color hides minor differences, and the men vary greatly in shape and size, ranging from 6’5″ and 280lb to 6’2″ and 160lb to 5’8″ and 160lb, so they won’t look all alike in matching tuxedos anyway.
I hope that helps a bit more. 🙂
Post # 5
I would also like to know how formal it is as well. What time will the wedding be held? Will the invitations be fromal (there is a major difference in invitation sytles that indicate how formal the wedding will be). Anyway, I generally think that a 3 piece suit should be perfectly fine, unless the wedding is very formal. If this is one of the things you feel strongly about, I think you should do it. I also think your vision sounds nice with the groomsman wearing a different suit than you. My groom is also wearing a 3 piece suit. You can really dress it up with the materials of the suit/shirt/tie, etc.
Post # 6
I think that a 3 piece suit would be fine, regardless of the formality of the wedding! If you won’t feel “right” in a full tux, you shouldn’t wear one. A 3 piece suit is still very nice…it’s not like you’re asking to wear shorts and flip flops. 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think it’s fine. It’s kind of the trend (in a good way, not an annoying trendy way) for grooms to wear elegant suits instead of tuxedos. However, you need to make sure you publish your dresscode as formal and not black tie. If you say black tie, you are technically asking your guests to wear tuxes, so you would need to be in one too.
Post # 8
The wedding is at 5PM on one floor of the place, and the reception is an hour or so later upstairs, with cocktails, hor d’ouvres and photos in between. The dinner is buffet style, if that has any bearing as well. As a matter of fact, the invitations do not contain the words ‘formal’ or ‘formally’ on them.
I really appreciate everyone’s input. I needed some reassurance before I went and dropped a half a grand on a suit, even if I’ll hopefully get quite a number of uses out of it, and I definitely got that. Thank you so much, everyone. 🙂
Post # 9
I love three piece suits and my fiance plans to wear one as well (with the grooms men in 2 piece rental suits). The well made ones dress up real nice.
I really think you should be comfortable and feel good about what you are wearing too! I keep telling my man that it is not just about me – the bride, no matter how many people try to say that it is!
Good luck, I’m sure you will look smashing on your big day.