Post # 1
I am getting married in October, and I am a very very very social person. Our wedding will have over 300 guests, and there are about 90 people I would potentially invite to a shower.
My soon-to-be sister in law asked to throw one for my Fiance’s side of the family, and my sister and Maid/Matron of Honor offered to throw another for friends. And my aunt wants to throw another, just for family.
That would make it about 20-35 people each, which I think is reasonable, but is it okay to have three showers? And are they okay to be the hosts? AND,if that happens, do my bridesmaids get invited to them all (even though I wiould tell them no gifts)? Does my mom get invited to them all? What about my sister? ANd my future MIL?
Too many questions… but thanks in advance for your help!
Post # 3
PS, i have a very, very large family which is over 50 of those people.
Post # 4
I think three showers is fine. I had three baby showers! (DON’T ASK!) As long as you don’t invite everybody to all three, you are fine. Your maids, mother and Future Mother-In-Law should be invited to all three.
Post # 5
I am having two, potentially three showers. Fiance is from Missouri, I am from Indiana, we live in Mississippi. My aunts are giving me a shower back home, his family is throwing me one in Missouri and I think our friends down here might throw us a small couples shower.
As KateMW said, just be sure that you don’t invite people to more than one. I am inviting my mother and Future Mother-In-Law, but I personally am only inviting my bridesmaids to the one in my hometown. Most of them are from there originally and live out of town now and won’t be going anyway. The only one who will be invited to both is FI’s sister.
Hope this helps!
Post # 6
We are also getting married in October and I am having 3 showers. The only people I am inviting to all 3 are the moms (there are 4 of them) and the bridesmaids. I really want them there and told them no gifts. So of course I think 3 is perfect!
Post # 7
I am having three, my Maid/Matron of Honor threw one for a few friends (probably about 10 people total ended up at that one), my aunt really wanted to throw one so she decided to do one for only my female relatives (only about 10 people), and then my Future Mother-In-Law and a bunch of her friends are throwing one for us which I have been guaranteed will be a wonderful affair! That last one makes me a little nervous 😉
Post # 8
I agree that there’s nothing wrong with three showers. As for inviting bridesmaids, sisters, mothers, etc: I would invite them all but personally tell them that they aren’t expected to bring a gift to each one and that it’s okay if they can’t attend them all.
Post # 9
Yes, I accidently erased my first post, but I think you need to make sure that your repeat guests understand that their presence is the best gift they can give you.
Post # 10
I think having more than one shower is the norm– however I understood from a book I read that every female guest invited to the wedding should also be invited to a shower. Is this what others are doing? and if not why?