(Closed) Three weddings for the same couple (Beware family drama within)

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2491 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you have every right to be. I understand that you do a Destination Wedding and then a reception or “second” ceremony at home, but what is the point of the THIRD wedding? Without any family drama included, this is a little strange. I would also be upset and frustrated having to buy yet another gift for a couple you have already done the whole thing with!

I personally think it is reasonable to say that you have prior committments for that weekend and will not be able to attend. I also don’t know if I would send a gift, since you already bought them a wedding gift for their last one.

Post # 4
2 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would feel the same way! I wouldnt bother going or buy another gift! I bet alot of other family and friends are probably feeling the same way.

Post # 5
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

You’re right.  This is ridiculous.

Post # 6
2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This can’t be real!  That is absolutely ridiculous.  I wouldn’t go and wouldn’t get a gift.  I’d also have a very hard time not being snarky about the whole thing and RSVP No saying something like “Didn’t you already have a wedding?”

Post # 7
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I BARELY understand people who have a destination wedding and then a second reception at home, so this to me is beyond unreasonable to me.

If I were you I might even contact her about the crock pot, and let her know if she gets the replacement, the one you bought her is still better than what you have (even if it’s not) and you’d love to have it back, even second hand.  Or, call all bewildered, and let her know you’re appalled that it broke, and it’s probably still under warranty since it’s less than a year old!

Post # 8
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

Oh my word, this sounds quite excessive! I agree with your mom – you’re already commited to something else, and you’ve already celebrated their marriage with them twice. That is more then enough. And I wouldn’t give another gift, especially since they’re registering for replacement items they already received. Poor taste, IMO.

Post # 10
45 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

She is being silly. Don’t go. When all she gets are 2 accepted invites back maybe she will realize she is coming off as greedy and self-indulgent.

I would understand if she had a dream wedding and wants a renewal with all the trimmings or separate locale weddings (like im from asia and fi is canadian so there is going to be a wedding in each country) but she seems to be milking the same people for money and gifts.

You could always ‘gift’ her advice-get a place of her own, focus on her kids not herself (or her weddings) and realize people are not impressed.

Post # 11
45 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012


just noticed you did air it all out. Good for you. Maybe, just maybe, she will take time to reflect on priorities and her conduct now.

😛 too bad abt the crockpot – totally should have asked for it back. Haha!

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