(Closed) "Three years is a good time for engagement…"

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think that’s totally reasonable considering your age. Fiance and I are getting married when we’re 24 after 6 years together. That would be way too long to wait if we were in our 30s, but I think it’s better to wait longer the younger you are.

Post # 4
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree, I think that’s appropriate for your age. If it bothers you, why don’t you tell him? 

Post # 5
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

Fourteen months seems like an eternity, but time flies! 

Everything happens for a reason. 

My advice would be to use this time to get to know each other even better and focus on bettering your relationship rather than focusing on engagement. 

Post # 6
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578 posts
Busy bee

I totally agree that that timeline is perfect. I am 22 as well, and will be engaged any moment now! Definitely before Christmas, and it will be after 3 years of dating as well. When we talked “timeline” much earlier in our relationship, my guy said he thinks proposing between 1 and 3 years of dating is good. He’s waiting until the very end of that timeline for us, but we’re young too, so what’s the hurry. It gives you more time getting to know eachother! 

Enjoy every minute of your “boyfriend”, because you won’t be able to call him that forever 🙂

Post # 7
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had to wait 3 years for my engagement. I already wanted to at 2 years, but I’d just started graduate school and it wouldn’t have been an ideal time. It was TOOORTURE waiting a whole year. But it is so worth it in the end!! It’ll go by SO fast!!! 😀

Post # 8
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97 posts
Worker bee

I have to respectfully disagree with pp. I don’t think it has anything to do with your age vs. how long you have been together. I think it has to do with how fast you’re moving in your relationship and what your immediate goals are. Every couple is different. If three years is a timeline that yall are both comfortable with then that’s wonderful.

If you know the man and you know that he’s the one and he feels the same way, then why does time matter?

Trust yourself and him.

Good luck and congrats!

Post # 9
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@EvenAngelsFall:  The thing is, how do you know he’s the man, if you haven’t been dating for very long? I know a lady who dated a guy who she thought was “the one” and absolutely “perfect”. She “knew him SO well after they were dating for 3 months”.

They got married early, with a short engagement. They divorced after 2 years after he’d sent her to the hospital with broken ribs and limbs 4 times.

Post # 11
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97 posts
Worker bee

@MrsJenBee:  I think you’re absolutely right, but in my head that bit was common sense. You have to get ready when you feel comfortable enough making that huge decision. My SO has told me numerous times that he will propose when he wants to and that he’s only going to do this once. I feel the same way.

🙂

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