- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Good Morning All –
So my boyfriend is relocating from Cleveland here to New York in August. That is about 2 months ahead of schedule due to a job offer. We are going to live together right off the bat. We aren’t engaged yet, but he plans to propose by the end of the year. So with planning a wedding soon, it makes no sense to spend the money to maintain two households. Plus they say you truly don’t know someone until you live with them.
Anyway – my best friend is *supposed* to be moving to Myrtle Beach Sept 1st. Her lease was up on her last apartment in April. So from April to Sept she was going to live with her cousin to save money. Her cousin has a full finished basement. My best friend has 2 cats. Well after being there for a month and a half her cousins husband had issues with the cats. I guess their son was allergic, and because the cats were somewhere new they were sh*tting everywhere and making a mess. So basically they said the cats had to go. So she exhausted all other family members including her parents and grandparents, and they wouldn’t let her stay at their homes with these cats. So who does she call? Me. I felt like I had no choice because if her family says no, what other options does she have? So I said yes. Also – I am not a cat lover.
I work 2 FT jobs (which I am so excited to quit one when my love relocates because he hates that I work so much). She is unemployed. So she doesn’t pay rent, or help with bills. She does babysit my son for me for free when I have to work overnight and my son isn’t with his Dad.
A couple weeks ago I had a cookout, and she was telling some of my friends about her relocating. Her date was no longer September 1st. It had changed to like the 2nd or 3rd week. No knowledge to me.
My boyfriend moving here is something him and I have been looking forward to for a long time. Now that it is happening I find everything is aggitating me. The 2nd job, the living situation with her and her cats.
He is the old school kind of guy. He wants to “take care” of me. Pay all bills, even though I insist we share the responsibility.
It was different when it was just me, and her living off of me. That was my choice. Now him moving here and becoming the “man of the house”, how do I address her and her extending her moving date without consulting me knowing he is moving here and its not just me anymore.
I am anxious to start our new life together without the cloud hanging over of an extra head in our home until a date she sees fit. I have a 2 bedroom. So she shares a room with my 3 year old. Her belongings are everywhere. The whole situation is a hot mess. I also don’t want her to feel like “oh, so your man is moving in, you are kicking me out”. Its not like that at all. I did her a HUGE favor, and was put on the spot when asked so she didn’t even give me time to think about it. She should be thankful.
How do I address this situation??