(Closed) Threesome and friends ( first world problems really )

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You do not have to have intercourse. You can always have a safe word or bow out if you become uncomfortable. I can’t say if it will be weird for you and your friend, you know each other far better. If you want to go through with it, start slow, enjoy and don’t feel like you are forced to do anything.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Personally I would never do a thing like that with a friend. Chances are too high it’s gonna be awkward afterwards, or even WHILE you’re still doing it. I might be a bit extreme, but I don’t even let my friends give me massages and I also don’t give them massages (some of them have asked and I’ve always declined). I don’t know, it’s just too awkward. If you really wanna try having a threesome, I’d do it with two people you don’t (or barely) know.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Maybe set up where your lines are? (ex: your cool kissing and a bit of boob feeling but thats about as far as you go). I think  if your both the type that can laugh about it afterwards if things do get awkward, you should be fine. If you can’t imagine laughing about it with her, I wouldn’t. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Do you want to have a threesome? Beyond the friend issue, I can’t get a clear sense of whether this is something that you want to experience. It seems like that’s the biggest, most important thing to determine. If the idea of it excites you, then I would communicate your concerns/thoughts to your friends to openly explore how this might impact your friendship & what boundaries you want to create afterwards (do you want to talk about it? Not talk about it? Explore the possibility of doing it again? Not have that be an option? etc.). If this is the type of friend that you feel you could have these sorts of conversations with AND you’re genuinely interested/excited about the prospect of having a threesome, then go for it! If your friendship is not one where you’d feel comfortable talking about these things, then you may want to think twice.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Have you slept with a male friend? Was it awkward after? That might indicate how you would feel about this

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Oh, FWIW I had a couple threesomes with friends when I was younger. Both were not best friends but girls I knew very well. It wasn’t weird. But then we all had the mind set that sex is fun and to be safe physically and emotionally. I felt very safe with all parties. It really just depends on the people involved. There are countless others I would not have that mindset and it would be weird. In life it is better to regret the things you did than what you didn’t. If you feel safe then go for it. It is better to maybe have a little awkwardness, although it sounds like you will not, than to look back years from now and wonder. Just my opinion

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Sounds like it could be fun and the timing might be right for you. Something else to consider would be how discreet you think the other 2 would be, and how would you feel if this encounter was made public in some way? Also, choosing a location you feel safe in and that there are no hidden cameras etc. Just throwing it out there! I would have liked to try a threesome in my earlier days, but would be devestated/embarrassed  if my conservative family found out. 

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Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I think threesomes are disgusting quite frankly

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

UndercoverKitty007:  then don’t have one. The sex lives of others is none of your business, as long as they are not hurting themselves or others why judge?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

It sounds like you have it under control. Just make sure your friend knows ahead of time that you aren’t sure about having sex with another woman, so that she’s prepared for the idea that you guys might just be making out (or not even having that much contact, I don’t know where your comfort levels are).

UndercoverKitty007:  Well, it’s for the best that you aren’t the one being invited to the threesome then. ๐Ÿ™‚

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