Threesomes! Have you ever tried one?

posted 2 weeks ago in Intimacy
Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

bctoquebec :  

Oh, they can.  So I’ve heard . . .

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

considering you are both open to have a ffm and a mmf threesome i dont look at it as much of a porblem. I would find it a problem if a ffm threesome occurred, and then all of a sudden S.O. was very against fullfilling the other agreement of mmf. This is where i feel like absolute trust and agreement would play a big part. 

if you are comfortable with another women and he is comfortable with another man, then i say why not. 

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

she646 :  Weighing in here and uninvited of course…………for what its worth when you asked your original question you may have iintended that only responders who have actually had a threesome(s) should reply to you. However you did not make that a condition and you may just want to remain open about learning why some folk may not actually have a threesome because they may helpfully raise a question(s) or bring forth an aspect about threesomes (MMF 0r MFF) that you have not yet considered (ahead of making what could be a critical decision in your future). 

Post # 20
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Worker bee

she646 :  Personally I have not. Maybe when I was younger and single I would have enjoyed it. I cant see myself enjoying it now. I really like having sex with my husband and adding other people does not sound fun to me.

I did have a coworker overshare one night at a going away party. He and his girlfriend had both gotten into the swinger lifestyle. They both agreed and enjoyed it for a while together (like over a year). But eventually my friend started to be less interested in it and ended up not wanting to do it anymore at all. His girlfriend, however, was still enjoying it and very into it. He said it was kind of like Pandoras box and they could never really close that door again. He ended up breaking up with her bc they were no longer in agreement about this.

I would just say have good ground rules and boundaries and also agree that if both parties dont agree 100% then its not happening. And consent can be withdrawn at any time for any reason. Hope you guys have a good experience!

Post # 21
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Helper bee

she646 :  You can forget about people not giving opinions on your marriage. Because they will. 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

I have. Me and two girls though and not in the context that any of us were in a relationship. That said it was a lot of fun. I’d be up for another one sometime if my partner was but he isn’t so it remains a fantasy for now. 

Just make sure you all are aware of each other’s boundaries. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

Bee, I’ve noticed on here that anything out of the box sexually is always shot down right away except for the few of us out there who aren’t so closed minded.

I have had several threesomes! MMF, MFF, MMMF and done a couple swap a few times.

It’s so much fun! But you definitley need to discuss boundaries first! So in an MMF – what can the guest guy do to you? What can he do to your husband? What can you do to him/what can you do to your husband? Same thing for the MFF threesome. These boundaries should also be discussed with the guest.

Also come up with a ‘safe word’ so that if at any time any of you, including your guest, feel uncomfortable, the word is said and action stops.

I have found and been found on dating apps! I have seen profiles with both the partners and a description of what they are looking for. Definitley put that you are looking for a sexual experience (and if you become friends, cool!).

It’s good to go for drinks with the prospective guest to get a feel for them. You want to all be attracted to each other in person. Then if you are all feeling it, go from there! Invite back to your place or set up another time to do so.

A tip if you or anyone is nervous – buy a dirty game – like one with cards and a dice. Where like if you lose a round or something you have to do a sexual favor. It could break the ice 🙂

Post # 24
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Busy bee

soonzak :  MMF threesomes are just amazing! 🙂 I couldn’t agree more 😉

Post # 25
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Helper bee

sweetdee89 :  Agree with all of this.

 

Were you in a relationship for the MMMF? 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee

I have, but I was the outside woman (and single) with an engaged couple so different situation. Wasn’t bad. Just make sure you have boundaries such as who can do what/go so far and with whom. 

Post # 28
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Busy bee

merighthere :  no- I was single and knew one of the guys beforehand . We met at a bar and got feel for the guys and we took it from there . It was so much fun!!!! 

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - City, State

sweetdee89 :  Get it! 🤗

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