Threesomes! Have you ever tried one?

posted 2 months ago in Intimacy
Post # 31
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Helper bee

No. Not my cup of tea. I guess I get it when people have it when they are single, but not in relationships.

Post # 32
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Honey bee

Never. I wouldn’t be able to handle seeing my SO with someone else. My SO has a coworker/friend who has 2 girlfriends and they are in a 3-way relationship. The girls were first in a relationship and he came in. she646 :  

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

OP, I hope your reaction to people in your personal life isn’t as defensive or aggravated as it is on this thread. 

People are entitled to their opinion. You don’t own the thread, and they can comment and voice their views if they want to. Some may find it appropriate, some down right gross. Regardless, it’s your life. The more you’re comfortable with your lifestyle and your choices the less you’ll find a need for to lash out at others. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee

caitlinbee :  Her being comfortable with her life has nothing to do with her frustrated response at judgmental close minded bees. You can be as comfortable as possible, but people get frustrated when they are judged and things are ASSumed about them.

Post # 36
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Busy bee

she646 :  🙂 PM me if you want to chat more without getting judged 🙂

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

sweetdee89 :  I disagree, when people are comfortable with their decision they respond in a way that isn’t defensive or short. 

Also, it has nothing to do with bees being judgemental or closed minded. 

Just because people on this thread don’t agree with having sexual relations with multiple people outside their marriage does not make them close minded or judgemental.

I would tread lightly on calling people who disagree with that lifestyle those terms. There are many terms that can be associated with those partaking in an open lifestyle and I feel everyone on this board has been respectful and has not used them. 

If you want people to be respectful of yours then you need to be respectful of theirs. Specially on a wedding site. 

Post # 38
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Helper bee

caitlinbee : True.  It’s telling that the people who consider themselves open minded are the same people calling others closed minded for holding views that don’t match their own.

Post # 39
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Busy bee

caitlinbee :  I don’t think you saw the other comments on the thread where the bees were judging hard on this bee. Including one who said “if you’re bored, break up. done.”

Those are the comments I’m referring to as the judgmental ones. The others that posted saying it’s not for them – those are not the bees I’m meaning as judgemental or close minded.

Difference of opinion and life choices is not the issue, it’s when you disagree and comment about the bee’s marriage or say things like ‘break up if you’re bored’.

This site isn’t just about weddings – hence this ‘life, love, marriage’ board. Last time I checked, I don’t have to tread lightly – I can say whatever the hell I want just like anyone else can.

I disagree that if you’re comfortable you will respond calmly. An example, I am CFBC and have been for as long as I can remember. To the point where I’m getting my tubes tied when I am able to at 35. I still am allowed and get annoyed at others who say comments that disagree with my opinion. It’s human nature. No one likes to be judged.

But I’m done threadjacking the bee’s thread. Have a great day.

Post # 40
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Helper bee

caitlinbee :  suggesting that they should just go ahead and break up instead of pursuing a sexual relationship that they are both interested in (as one of the earliest commenters stayed) is absolutely judgemental and close-minded. One even heavily implied that her husband is the one in control and that he simply wants to be with a different woman. I’m not surprised that OP has her guard up. 

I have zero interest in threesomes, and I don’t personally understand how relationships that embrace multiple partners function… but that’s for me and my relationship. She didn’t ask for judgement, she asked for anecdotal experience. Sanctimonious comments from people with no experience with threesomes isn’t helping anyone (this isn’t directed towards you, but to the nastier comments prior to yours, btw!). Yes, people are free to share their opinions but they’re not free from being called out on their shitty behaviour. 

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