- 4 years ago
Just about 6 short months ago I discovered the bee, as I was literally hitting “rock bottom,” in my miserable previous relationship. I was desperate for commitment and for all of the wrong reasons. I hate to admit it but I was seething with jealousy of my friends, who were all married and having kids. Then I finally came to my senses and left the loser, moved all of the stuff I could by myself an hour away to my parents house, hired movers for the rest – and didn’t look back.(I did lay on the floor and hyperventilate/scream/cry for a few days, didn’t eat for a month and started chain smoking… but I have since stopped all of that and resumed a healthy lifestyle). I am only human I guess.
I read so many stories on the Bee about women who left a bad relationship, only to meet someone wonderful. It gave me hope, but I did NOT think it would happen to me anytime soon. But it did, very soon after. The guy basically fell out of the sky randomly. It is almost too wonderful.
Now I am a few months into dating said great new guy, he has shown me more fun in one summer than any guy I have dated ever has, combined. And recently, he has been talking about committment, by making these little comments. For example, “I have to work overtime tomorrow, rings are expensive” … comments like that. I will smile at him and act calm and collected, but then I leave and ruminate about what he said all day.
We have had general discussions about what we want in the future, because I was not about to start dating someone who was not on the same page as me, and I am late 20’s, he is early 30’s … not kids anymore. We are on the same page, and it is wonderful! I want to be thrilled about the comments he is making and hints he seems to be dropping, but after all of the sadness and disappointment of my past… I am afraid to get my hopes up. That would completely suck. There is also that part of me that wonders… is this waaaay too soon?! I mean, we are less than 4 months in, and lets not kid ourselves, sometimes guys will say things in the honeymoon phase and then change their mind once real life sets in and the relationship is more comfortable. I know some people believe ‘When you know… you know” but there are plenty of people who would tell me it is too soon. I like the different feedback and I would rather hear it from people that aren’t close friends or family.
What do you guys think? And how would you react to those comments? I basically just sit there, dumbfounded.