(Closed) throw my own showers?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m confused, why can’t your friends throw you a shower where they live and you visit them for the weekend? 

Post # 4
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1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry you’re having such a crappy experience 🙁

Do you want to know if it’s okay to throw your own shower, or do you want some ideas?  Or do you just want some kind words/encouragement?  We can offer any or all of the above! 

Post # 5
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Sorry but you really can’t throw yourself a shower.  The whole point of a bridal shower is to have gifts so if you throw one for yourself that just looks greedy.  Also… it seems like since you don’t have anyone nearby that you wouldn’t really have anyone to invite to the shower anyway, so I’m a little confused?

Post # 6
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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@CanAmBride: I agree with you making the effort to go to your friends if they throw you a shower.

But please don’t throw yourself a shower.  It does look greedy. 

Post # 7
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1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have to agree with the other – you don’t really throw your own shower.  BUT you could talk to your friends and let them know IF they were planning a shower for you, you’d love to help.  OR wait for your friends to mention the shower and then tell them you’d love to help.  But yeah, you shouldn’t throw one yourself in your own honor.

Post # 8
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am not sure what your situation is, but maybe your friends could throw a shower and you can travel to them?

200 miles is really not that far…3 to 4 hours in a car?

Post # 9
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1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with everyone else, I think its inappropriate to throw your own shower but fine if someone else does and you offer to help.

I’m sorry you are lonely, are there any church groups or classes you can join nearby to meet people? I was in your situation and I ended up meeting a lot of women at a workout class!

Post # 10
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hi,  I’m actually not going to address the shower part because I think that may not be the actual problem here.  I think the problem is what you mentioned in the last two lines: 

“I am a stay at home fiance so I don’t have any co workers to throw one for me and I joined a new church and haven’t really met anyone yet. HELP!

I am so lonely. I know I have my finace but he is working 6 days a week sometimes 16 hours a day!

I can totally understand how you would feel lonely in this situation.  Don’t give up trying to make friends! If you just joined a new church, give it some time.  Maybe join a book club? Instead of sitting in the house all day, find a coffee/tea place to frequent? Join a knitting circle? Something…. I myself have gone through isolated periods (all my friends live far away too, I only have my Fiance here), and this kind of throwing yourself headfirst into the community is what has worked for me.  HUGS.  You’ll make some friends. Give it time.

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