(Closed) Throwing a Bridal shower for an “unconventional” bride

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I do not like people looking/staring at me at all, so we had an open house, guests came and went during a period of time (four hours) as they wanted and I opened the gift with them in my parents family room (which doesn’t have that much room for people to hang around).  Most people sat with me while I opened the gift for about 5 mins then got up and milled about the different food stations and sat around outside.  It was great!

Post # 17
24 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aww poor lady, I really do understand where she’s coming from. I think it’s a pretty awful tradition myself and reaalllllly didn’t want to do it at mine. Though it is awkward and seems braggy, as other bees have said, most guests want to see her open *their* present and see her delighted face. Being the center of attention might not be her thing, but her friends and loved ones probably went to a lot of trouble for the gifts and might be disappointed to not see her open it in front of them.

That being said, I heard about a bridal shower where one of the BM’s opened all the gifts and set them out a “head table”,if you will. Would that be a better solution for her if she’s too uncomfortable the other way?

Post # 18
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You can still do all the party stuff without opening gifts. I recently went to a “Spicey Bridal Shower” for a friend of mine who loves to cook. All the guests were assigned a  letter, and were to bring a bottle of spice that started with that letter. . I thought this was a great idea, for the bride who already has everything, but loves to cook. The host got her a very nice, big spice rack, and everyone lined up their spices on the rack as they came in.

Post # 19
5789 posts
Bee Keeper

We did a similar one a few years ago for my daughter, and it actually turned out great. We asked that guests not wrap, but could use bags,bows,ribbons and be creative. As guests arrived, everything was placed on tables around the room and covered with organza overlays. The bride just had to remove the covers and go through the gifts that were already unwrapped. People were pretty clever in how they displayed them too, using different containers for the gifts. We loved it.

I only have a few pictures on this computer, but you can get an idea of how we did it.

Post # 20
47344 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, I learned something today! I had never heard of a display shower. You could always explain that it was more “green” not to have all that wrapping.

I was going to suggest asking the guests to purchase one larger, more expensive gift together, so she only had to open the one gift.

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