(Closed) Throwing Away Ornaments

posted 4 months ago in Beehive
Post # 46
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m with PPs. I can’t wrap my brain around throwing perfectly good ornaments (or anything for that matter) in the trash. Like what?! 

Maybe it’s just me, but I absolutely LOOOOVE all my Christmas ornaments. One of my favorite parts of the holidays is opening my box of ornaments and unwrapping each one and remembering where it came from, the story behind it. Every new place I visit, I purchase an ornament. My son is now almost 2 and just yesterday he learned the word “Pinocchio” because he saw the ornament on the tree that my husband and I got on our honeymoon in Rome (the birthplace of Pinocchio). It was great! We have ornaments on the tree that are older than we are for goodness sake! 

 

Post # 48
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

One time we moved (my mom was in the hospital as she was just being diagnosed with a brain tumor around this time and I was obviously a child) and my Dad left the entire decorated tree up with the presents underneath and never went back. 

I am still extremely bitter about my Cookie Monster ornament and the Spice Girl barbies that were no doubt under the tree.

Post # 49
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Helper bee

Nope because I am not an asshole who buys shit creating demand and fossil fuels for no reason and then toses it into the trash adding to our trash problem, what a selfish thing to do

Maybe for christmas you should educate your mom and friend on the fact that there will be no holidays pretty soon if people like them dont start making a change.

Also if anyone is going to be this boujie then at least go donate the toys for f*cks sake.. if you are American like most of your country lives below middle class/poverty line there is literally millons of people who would appreciate this. UGH  

 

 

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

The way I look at it is this. 

Is the impact any worse than throwing away takeout containers or single us bags? 

No, not really. Those things are a bit problem and almost all of us are guilty of being part of that problem (I know I am). 

But the difference is that those are items that don’t really have reuse potential. The best we can do (other than not using those products at all, which is pretty hard to avoid when you’re on the go a lot) is to recycle what we can and try to reduce our reliance on these things (by using reusable travel mugs or visiting places that use compostable containers when possible). 

Things like Christmas ornaments, clothing, books, shoes, jewellery, toys, etc are all things that as long as they’re in decent condition there are plenty of people who would be happy to have them when you’re done with them.

So beyond simply creating unnecessary garbage, it’s just incredibly wasteful and as someone who went through some pretty rough patches in my life, I’d be quite upset to find out that all that time I was struggling to afford the basics, other people around me were just throwing away luxuries I’d have loved to have. 

Post # 52
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Helper bee

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anonymousanonymous0102 :  I would have no issues saying this right to you.. if you are ever downtown Toronto hit me up. 

I am far from perfect but I also want my future kids to have a planet to grow up on and it really takes very little effort to be environmentally and socially conscious. 

It actually takes MORE effort to toss every toy, get in car following holidays drive to mall spend time shopping or ordering online than to simply remove toys and put them in a box.

Post # 56
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Helper bee

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anonymousanonymous0102 :  Ya well maybe if people cared this much to begin with we wouldn’t be in this shithole situation in the first place, it’s exactly that oh well who cares just relax attitude that got our planet to the devastating situation it is today

Why dont you learn from what PPs have said to you and go educate your mom on how silly this is, if she MUST buy new toys every year then in the very least ask for the toys and donate them on her behalf to those in need

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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anonymousanonymous0102 :  From behind the “safety” of a computer? Says double anonymous 0102…

Clearly, you posted this to get a response. You can’t be too surprised you got one. 

You don’t like that the Bees get offended when people post about things that offend their sensibilities. Might want to choose another venue to open this conversation. What was your actual goal posting the question? You yourself clearly found the behavior unusual at the very least; enough that it occasioned comment and prompted you to ask a bunch of strangers about it. 

As for comments on her character, well… people are operating on extremely limited information. What they currently know about your mother is that she engages in a behavior that seems pathologically wasteful and thoughtless. It implies she might be someone who doesn’t think super carefully about the larger consequences of her habitual actions. The choice doesn’t demonstrate a lot of empathy or concern for the way this choice results in negative externalities. 

Are any of us perfect? Nope. If people heard about our worst habits in isolation, would they think we were shitty people? Probably. Should you really care what a bunch of strangers say about your mom when they literally know one not-awesome thing about her? I sure as hell wouldn’t YMMV

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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anonymousanonymous0102 :  what are you trying to accomplish with this thread? 

You had to have known that people would find this behaviour gross and wasteful when you posted it. So why are you being so defensive about it? 

No one is losing their minds here and requiring stress leave to handle the mental health impact of being reasonably taken aback and disgusted by needless waste. 

You’re right, I wouldn’t call my mother a shitty person. But if she repeatedly engaged in a behaviour I found harmful, I would tell her what was wrong with her behaviour and suggest better alternatives (in this case, donating items she no longer wants instead of tossing them). And if she rejected that criticism and continued to engage in the behaviour, yeah, I’d tell her she was being shitty. 

It’s one thing to do something absent mindedly because you just never thought about it, but once she’s been made aware of what she’s actually doing, then yeah if she continues, she’s being shitty. Especially since the right thing to do here isn’t even difficult or inconvenient. 

Post # 59
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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anonymousanonymous0102 :  Of course you don’t want to call your mom a shitty person. I don’t think this one incident makes her terrible, and I don’t think all PPs are saying that. My guess is she’s just not thinking of how wasteful this practice is. Why don’t you suggest that this year, instead of just throwing all those ornaments in the garbage for absolutely no reason, she donate them? Or, if that seems like a hassle, you could donate them for her? 

That’s how this changes a bit for the better. You learned recently she’s being wasteful. If she still wants to keep buying new ornaments for some reason every year, at least you can try to stop her from throwing them away. 

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