Post # 1
Fiance took a job that requires him to travel a lot. With this travel, however, comes a lot of overtime and added income. I have always complained about the traveling because, let’s face it, who wants to be without their better half for the better half of a month? I eventually came to accept the traveling as a part of our lives, and that was that.
A week ago, in the midst of us trying to buy a house, a job became available at his work that would take away all the traveling he would be doing and bump him up to a managerial position. SWEET! However, overtime goes down significantly, and with it, the amount of money he would be making in a year. I much rather him be home than to make a ton of money, but I was concerned about being able to afford our house. We did some math, and it seems as though we’ll be ok. So he went for it!
The good news: it’s looking like he’s going to get the job!
The bad news: The company is sending him out of the country for FOUR WEEKS the DAY after we close for training for the position. So, as soon as we finally get our house, Fiance has to go away and we have to wait a month to move stuff in. Oh, this also happens to fall during my birthday. And Jazz Fest. I’m just a little disappointed by this because this isn’t the first time this has happened with his job: 8 days after we got engaged, Fiance was shipped off to Chile for over a month. It’s like the job KNOWS when we’re about to celebrate something exciting, and it just swoops in and takes it away.
The bright side: this is hopefully the last time it will happen :/ No one even has to respond to this, I just needed to get it out without him knowing I’m sad over this…
Post # 3
I would be sad too…. BUT he’s going to be home instead of travelling, that’s a happy thought!
Post # 4
The timing is awful, but hopefully this will be the last major out of town job for him! Then you’ll have him home all the time 🙂
Post # 5
It sucks for the timing…but think about when he DOES come back? No more him traveling and being gone a lot AND you’ll have the house to warm up together with him there more and not away traveling!
Whenever there is clouds, look for the silver lining! Whenever there is rain, look for the rainbow!
Post # 6
I know the feeling! I was traveling a lot for my job last summer and I was actually across the country THE DAY we closed on our house 🙁 Our very first home together and I didn’t get to sign the papers, get the keys or even see our new house the day it was ours. All I got was a call from our realtor saying we had closed! I’ll never get that day back, either 🙁
At least after the training, he won’t be traveling anymore! Pretty ironic that he took a job so he wouldn’t have to travel so much and they send him away for 4 weeks! Sorry hun 🙁 HUGS!
Post # 7
I would use the time to paint the house/redecorate. LOL.
SO and I dont always have the same decorating tastes, and I know if he just could see my vision there wouldn’t be any arguments…
sorry you are going through this- but think of the bright side. one more long stretch, and no more traveling!
Post # 8
Oh…I would be sad too! But…the bright side of all of this is that it’s the LAST TIME that this will hopefully happen for a really long time! And you’ll have him home for the summer when a ton of stuff goes on. If your house has a new patio, then you can enjoy summer nights out on that patio…woohoo!
Post # 9
Aww I know the feeling! Fiance is out of town A LOT and he actually ended up missing our closing day on our house:( I know he was really disappointed, but we made sure to have a special evening in our new house when he got back! I’m sure your FI’s new position will be worth it in the end!!
Post # 10
dude you totally deserve the pity party!
dont worry about it. my fiance travels and it drives me crazy, too. its a lonely existance.
those 4 weeks are going to suck majorly, but the payoff will be so worth it!
good luck, and enjoy the new house 🙂
Post # 11
Aww, cheer up! In the short-term, it’s definitely not great but think of the long-term. He’ll be home with you after those 4 weeks and you can move in and start the next part of life together.
AND have a delayed birthday celebration 🙂 Maybe with a neat present from wherever your Fiance is going 😉 My Fiance lives in another country for school and was away for his birthday, so we just did it up once he came back home for a visit.
Post # 12
Thanks for making me feel better, guys. I needed a pep talk and I didn’t want to talk to him about it :/. I just want him to be happy for his accomplishment.
Post # 13
Sorry about all the traveling involved with his job.I would kill for a job of any sort right now.You may have to make some adjustments to plans that you have previously made,but everything will be okay.Congratulations on your new home and his promotion.
Post # 14
My Fiance travels a lot for work, too- sometimes as much as every other week. It does suck, and he’s missed a lot. He missed my law school graduation, he’s missed my birthday a couple times, he almost missed Christmas one year. I’m not real sentimental, but it still kind of sucks that he didn’t get to see me graduate. I just count myself lucky he doesn’t travel out of the country very often.
So from someone else who gets it, I hear ya.
But if it’s any consolation, I have a friend whose dad had a job that was like 60 or 70% travel, and she always swore her parents never would’ve made it the 25 years they’ve been married if it weren’t for his traveling. Now that the kids are all grown, he takes his wife with him when he goes to nice places 🙂
Post # 15
I’m sorry – I know this sucks. The good news is that if you can just get through the four weeks, the light at the end of the tunnel will come and you won’t have to deal with this again. Much better than having him go out of town all the time.
Although not the same situation, right after our wedding Darling Husband got a job that has long hours and Sundays. We’re newlyweds, never lived together before the wedding, setting up our new apartment and now on Sundays and nights I come home from work and am alone. I kiss him goodbye at 7:15 and say hi to him again at 10, when I go to sleep. I’m sitting alone at home waiting for him now. I know how hard it is to be away from your better half because of work responsibilities. But chin up, it’ll all get better from here! And congrats on the new house!
Post # 16
I understand! My Fiance and I have lived apart for 3.5 years. When we got engaged, we got about 24 hours to celebrate, then he had to head back to where he lives. It is beyond difficult not having them around, especially for the big and fun events. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that this will definitely be the last time he has to travel.
In the meantime, the other girls gave some great suggestions. You can start decorating and making plans for the house. You can plan for something really great and fun for when he returns. The month will fly by!