Post # 1
My mom and her boyfriend (a wedding photographer) told me yesterday that all my "guests will be confused" if I don’t walk out of the church after the ceremony so that they can throw rice (or throw bird seed or blow bubbles) at me and my groom.
What’s everyone’s take on this?
It had never occurred to me to include this in my ceremony, and I still plan to skip it. But, I got such glaring looks from them that I thought I would run it by the group. Do people honestly stick around outside the church these days waiting for the couple to come out?
Post # 3
People did at the last wedding I went to. Most people like to take pictures as the bride and groom walk out of the building together.
The last one I went to had an alley done by the firefigther the groom work with as a volunteer. it was actually pretty cool.
Post # 4
Be sure to check with your venue. Our church doesn’t allow rice, birdseed, flower petals, anything except bubbles.
And yes, some people do stick around. Once we exit out the back, we’re going to take a moment for ourselves and the circle back around to greet guests and dismiss them from the pews starting at the front. People might be out front when we leave, I hadn’t really thought of it!
Post # 5
We didn’t do this at our wedding. Some guests stuck around waiting but I had instructed a few relatives who would be staying at the church for pics to let people know that they could just go right on to the reception. Frankly, most of my guests seemed relieved that they didn’t have to stick around and could just get right to the party.
Post # 6
This is pretty standard at most weddings. Some couples do it right after the ceremony before the reception. Others do it at the very end of the reception when the couple leaves.
2 cents: If you wan’t something other than bubbles, wedding wands are pretty and can be customized to your colors. No mess, no sticky bubbles.
Post # 7
I was confused when this first happened at a wedding I went to two years ago, but I would say it is pretty standard now. I think you can minimize confusion by having your ushers let people know that they can proceed on to the reception site for the cocktail hour. Also, my opinion on rice (even if the church allows it) is a negative one – people are rioting for rice in other parts of the world. I like the idea of wedding wands as mentioned by emredhead76. good luck!
Post # 8
I think (sadly) throwing rice is a thing of the past. I always loved it and as a child spent countless hours tying up sheer packets of rice for all my aunt’s weddings, now that it is my turn…its another story. Our venue does not allow birdseed, rice, bubbles, confetti, releasing butterflies or ANYTHING! The wedding wands is a nice idea but I might just have everyone form a bridge for us to pass under!
Post # 9
I think the throwing of rice would be a nice photo op… just do it real fast then go back into the church and take pictures
Post # 10
I was just looking for ideas on this topic. I am not sure how to do this either. It sounds fun but what to use and is it really that important. Our ceremony and reception are at the same place. What would protocall be on this?