Post # 1
While my fiance and I were talking about what traditions we want to keep in our wedding, the throwing the bouquet and the garter toss came up. I would like to do the bouquet part but he’s not all that keen on the garter toss. Admittedly I’m also not too excited about the thought of sitting on a chair in the middle of the dance floor while my new hubby feels up my dress trying to find my garter through layers of tulle.
So we’d like to skip it but does anyone know: if we skip the garter toss, should we skip the bouquet toss also?
Or perhaps, has anyone done a different variation of the garter toss that wouldn’t require me hiking up my skirt?
Post # 3
@Sharebear: My planner said that most brides have a garter that they hand discreetly to the groom to toss so there’s no fishing around for it.
Post # 4
@Sharebear: You can do whatever you want! I’ve been to weddings where they did the bouquet toss and not the garter toss. No one noticed or cared =)
Post # 5
I’ve been having some fears about the garter toss as well. You could have him stuff a garter up his sleeve and just have him pretend he searched for it, or maybe just slip the garter down to your knee right before the toss.
For the bouquet toss my friend had what looked like a single large toss bouquet but she descreetly untied a ribbon and when sho tosed the bouquet 4 mini bouquets went flying at the girls, unespected and gave the old tradition a little something extra.
Post # 6
We did not do a bouquet toss, but Darling Husband insisted on a garter toss. My compromise for that was giving him a garter. I don’t think stripper music or going up your bride’s skirt are appropriate or respectful for a wedding
Post # 7
For the bouquet toss we did a dance off and it was hilarious (my GFs are crazy-fun so it helped!). And for the garter toss we did something different. Instead of having my husband fish under my dress for the garter, I had him sit on a chair and removed his tie and that’s what he threw instead of a garter. Our guests appreciated seeing something different.
Post # 8
I think bouquet with no garter is completly fine. But if you do want to do a garter you can always, right before the toss, place the garter on your calf so he doesn’t have to reach so high. That’s what all the women in my family have done and it’s not too embarassing. That said, you totally don’t have to do one! 🙂
Post # 9
We forgot to do bouth and no one noticed so do what you are comfortable with … if you still want to have a garter toss I like the idea of handing over the garter secretly without fishing around for it
Post # 10
Personally, it’s all up to you. If you decide to omit it then do that and if you decide to toss the bouquet do that. You get this day to do exactly what you want, and you should do just that!!!
Post # 11
Thanks for the advice! I talked to my fiance about the garter toss. His issues were the same as mine when it came to retrieving the garter. When I suggested to him that I could just hand the garter to him instead of him having to going fishing around for it, he liked that idea much better!
Post # 12
I think I’m going to just slip the garter to knee or calf level.
Post # 13
I’m not doing either at my wedding, but if I had someone really want to do a garter toss, TBH I would just put it around my ankle.