(Closed) Throwing the “rice” outside the church…HOW DOES IT WORK?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’ve never seen it done at the church. I always see it done when leaving the reception. I know that they do it in movies, but I’ve never done it that way.

Post # 4
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

We’re doing it when we leave the reception. Everyone I know has always done it leaving the reception and not the church.

Post # 6
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

My husband I and just got married less than two weeks ago. Our wedding ceremony took place at five, and the reception was right after, but we took pictures after the ceremony… So there was no time for rice-throwing (or in our case, bird seed throwing). Instead, we had our ceremony, took pictures, headed on over to the reception… After eating and cutting the cake, we had a fake "send-off" while it was still light out. Everyone lined up outside and threw the bird seed and blew bubbles, then my husband and I drove off for about ten minutes and came back and enjoyed the party some more.

Post # 7
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I went to a wedding a few weeks ago where the guests lined up outside the church to blow bubbles before going to the reception. The couple did the recessional, then came back in and personally dismissed each row. Then as people left, they were handed bubbles and lined up outside. After everyone was out, they ran out into the sea of bubbles and into the limo.

 I only suppose they circled the block a few times and then came back after most people had taken off for the reception, because I know they had pictures done right after the ceremony as well.

Post # 8
378 posts
Helper bee

Check and see that your venue allows rice/birdseed throwing. Ours does not.

And yes, my cousins had the same problem, and they all piled in the car, drove around for a little bit and headed back to the church for photos.  

Post # 9
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Is the picture really important to you or do you just feel like you need it because you’ve seen it so many times? It seems like it’s going to be a pain, but you can do it with a little work! I’m too lazy…I’d just do it at the reception and call it a day. You could use sparklers at night! It would look very cool.

Post # 11
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I love thhe idea of the petal toss coming out of the church, so here’s how we’re planning on doing it.

 First, we’ll exit, and then the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor will join us in the vestibule to sign the marriage license.  While this is happening, the guests will exit the church.  Once outside, my bridesmaid will invite guests to grab a handful of petals from a basket.  After we’ve signed the license, the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor will hold open the doors and we’ll run through the petals.

Since we have to take pictures, though, we were just going to run through, wave, and then pose at the end of the walkway for a large group photo.  Bridal party will tell guests to get on the bus or get in their cars, and that we’ll see them at the reception, as we run off behind the church for more pictures.

 i’m also planning on putting a note about it in the ceremony program.


Post # 12
29 posts

I’ve done a coupld weddings where the couple wanted this shot, and they arranged the day so that all the photos that needed to be taken on site (which were the photos with family) were taken BEFORE the ceremony.  After the ceremony there was a receiving line, and after the receiving line was the bird seed toss outside.

Then the bride and groom and their wedding party piled into the limos and we went to a different location for those portraits.

The one downfall to this arrangement is that the bride and groom see each other before the ceremony, but this couple wanted to cut down on the time their guests waited between the ceremony and the reception anyway, so it worked out perfectly!

Post # 13
39 posts
  • Wedding: July 2008

I second the idea of asking your venue before throwing anything. Rice is a pain to get out of your hair and it kills birds that eat it and then have the rice inflate in their tummies. Bird seed is nicer to the birds, but hurts if people have a good arm, and can also leave the venue with a lot of unwanted weeds.

We’re doing flower petals, and my venue is OK with throwing them anywhere outside, a long as it’s not on the stairs. We’re getting married outside, so I’m putting a cone of petals at the end of each aisle and asking people to throw them at us as we recess after having been married. My mom and fiance have both pointed out that the people on the outside ends of the aisles will not be able to get their petals to hit us, but I still think it will be a pretty picture.

I’m thinking of getting my petals from


Their prices seem good, even if the shipping is expensive, but it doesn’t seem to change if you order more.

I’m not sure if I’m better off with these prepared petals or going to Produce Junction, buying cheap roses and deflowering them. Any thoughts? 

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