Thursday wedding (on holiday weekend)?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Newbee

I think some people may have other plans and I think that travel expenses will be higher during a peak holiday such as this where many people travel. I guess it would depend on how far people are traveling, for example, are they flying or driving? Also, the 3rd and 5th aren’t holidays so people may need to take that into consideration for their work schedules.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Out of towners means traveling distance during a holiday (TRAFFIC). Plus if its mid week some of your guests may need to return to work early the next morning which could cause your guests to leave early, celebrate less.

If I were you I would schedule for the Saturday following and have an Independence themed event.

Post # 5
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bridewithabook :  I think most people can afford to take a day off especially if they are given advanced notice. With any “destination” type wedding where people have to travel, its pretty much unavoidable. I say, If you love the date stick with it! I think the most important people will still find a way to be there.

ETA: you have enough time to throw some feelers out to your VIPs and get their thoughts on this date too!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I would skip any wedding that was scheduled on a stat holiday or the long weekend of a holiday. I prefer to do stuff either with my family when I can, or spend time with my Fiance. I don’t want to go to somebody’s wedding. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

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samael :  I don’t really get why going to somebody’s wedding is a waste of a holiday weekend…? I mean, if someone is inviting you to their wedding (especially a small one), chances are they love you and you love them. I haven’t been to very many weddings but I thought it was usually a honor and a privilege to attend and celebrate with friends and family, not a chore..? I’m thinking about having my wedding on memorial day weekend which is why I’m asking — I genuinely don’t understand the attitude of “I don’t want to go to somebody’s wedding” during your time off of work. If not then, when?

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bridewithabook :  I think this idea sounds lovely, but I live in LA and I know there is sometimes a ton of traffic around the 4th, so keep that in mind! Is your wedding venue near any big fireworks shows?

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nalastardust :  I just feel like having your wedding on a regular weekend is fine, but having your weekend on holiday time will be taking me away from plans I would like to make with my loved ones.

I’ve been invited to weddings of people I am friends with, but I definitely don’t love. So in my mind, why would I give up time with the people I love on a holiday, to go to your wedding? That is not something I wish to do.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Generally speaking, having it on a Thursday may make it difficult for people to make it. People will likely be working that Wednesday and Friday, so they may have to take 2 vacation days as opposed to 1 or none. I’ve worked at places that would allow you off that “sandwiched” day and some that won’t. So that’s just something to bear in mind. Dove tailing off what samael said, some people may not be able to easily take days off work, or may be greatly limited with their days off. Some may have to go without pay. So I definitely understand that some of your guests may not want to attend a wedding on a holiday weekend. It’s not about not loving the person, it’s just that it may be one of the few opportunities for them to have time off to spend with their immediate family. Not everyone has the luxury of taking off time for an extended weekend when they want. And like me, I’m a little more introverted so I always needed those long weekends to recharge from working so much. My ex fiance’s best friend got married on the day after Valentine’s Day, and had things planned all day on V-Day. (Which happened to be the anniversary of us meeting, and was a special day for several reasons). While I wasn’t sour about attending, I did wish at the time they had chosen a different slot so people could spend that time with their special someone. However, July 4 isn’t nearly as intimate of a holiday, and is generally spent with family and friends. Ultimately, it’s up to you. Perhaps you could ask some of your potential guests how they feel about it. Just be aware that some people might not be able to go since it will be sandwiched between two working days for some people.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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nalastardust :  Just as an FYI, my parents got married Memorial Day weekend. My mom has fussed a few times over the years about how there are usually other things going on that make it difficult for them to celebrate on their anniversary. Or how she has had to miss out on things because of it. I actually had thought about doing it myself as a tribute to them, getting married on their 40th anniversary. But she advised me not to as she kind of regretted choosing that weekend over the years. Ultimately, our venue was booked that weekend so it wasn’t an option. But just bear in mind it may conflict with other things in time. 

Like I said in my other comment, it’s not really about not loving the couple or wanting to be there. I know a lot of people that have a difficult time taking days off because of the field they work in, or are at a point where they have to take days off without pay. So I do understand people wanting their holiday weekends to spend as they please. They may not have that luxury otherwise. 

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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bridewithabook :  I would run the idea by your VIPs and see what they think.  Do they have any traditions that they normally do that weekend?  I know many people that go camping over Memorial Day, for example, and wouldn’t be thrilled to go to a wedding instead.

I also think traffic would be a nightmare.  Many people who are able to take that long weekend will want to get started on the 3rd.  In my city, traffic is terrible the day before the 4th for that reason.

My SIL got married over Labor Day weekend a couple of years ago.  We had to fly as we live out of town and flights were so much more expensive.  We had trouble renting a car because of the demand.  My husband works in healthcare so we had to leave Sunday as he had to work Labor Day itself.  Not everyone has jobs where they get those big holidays off.

You also may be limited on venues as I know many that won’t do weekday weddings. See what others think before you book anything.  

Post # 14
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samael :  +1. That and my OH gets much less vacation time than I do, so to maximise our time we try to go away around bank holidays so he doesn’t need to book as much time off work.

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bridewithabook :  my concerns would be:

1) People having plans, or else not having set plans but preferring to spend holiday time with their husband/children than attend a wedding

2) People having to book the Wed or Fri (or both) off work. Even if their employer gives them the Friday off, this realtes back to point 1) as essentially they are then using 2 vacation days to attend

3) Holiday traffic

4) Higher travel/accommodation costs

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