Post # 1
We’ve finally decided on our venue are are trying to narrow down the date. We’re getting married in Europe (where we live) but the majority of the guests are traveling from the US (where I’m from). I’ve chatted with everyone I will invite and most are planning to come for a week or two (it doesn’t make sense to fly all the way here for just a day or two). I’m also planning to do my bachelorette the weekend before (so my bridesmaids / friends don’t need to travel twice) so most people have decided to make a bit of a vacation out of it.
Now I’m trying to figure out the date – during the week that we prefer, the venue is only free on the Thursday (which happens to be Aug 20th, 2020). Alternativally, the venue is free the Fri & Saturday over Labor Day weekend. I’m trying to figure out which is better….realistically I think because most of our guests are traveling for the full week it doesn’t make much difference if the wedding is on a Thursday or a Friday / Saturday but I’m not sure… I also don’t know if it’s better to have the wedding on a holiday weekend or if my guests might already have plans.
What do you guys think?
Post # 2
I would still pick the weekend. Your US guests can use the Labor Day holiday to minimize the amount of time off they need to take.
Post # 3
If they are taking a week off anyway, then I would do it on the Thursday, so they have the option to fly back home on the weekend without being rushed. I would also consider if your guest list has many teachers/educators, or if there are families with kids, as school usually starts right after labour day.
Post # 4
I would pick the Thursday date because if people are already having to travel more than a day it doesn’t matter too much what day it is on. Also if it’s Thurs they could come in on Wednesday night and stay the weekend if they want to spend some time but not take off a full week of work. Lots of people already have plans for long weekends and also travel is more expensive during that time as well.
Post # 5
Do your guests have children? In my state, school starts after Labor Day, so I wouldn’t want my kids to miss the first day or be jet lagged. I’d go with the Thursday in August (though some other states have year-round school or start before Labor Day).
Post # 6
blushingbee2019 and echomomm yeah this was a consideration also. Most of my guests have younger kids but a few do have school-aged kids so I know having the wedding so close to Labor Day would be hard.
Thanks all for the opinions! I see the poll is still 50/50 so let me know if you have any other thoughts!
Post # 7
I would pick Thursday (and not just because I am having a Thursday wedding). I agree with the poster that said that the guests could fly back over the long weekend. It’s a destination wedding so I think it doesn’t matter what day. Would having it on Thursday also reduce the price enough to be able to fit more into the budget?
Post # 8
We had an August wedding, and a lot of the kids had to be back mid August (scattered across the US).
Post # 9
Taking kids & school out of the equation, I would do the weekend. If I’m going to Europe and tagging onto a 3 day holiday weekend, I would probably fly in the weekend before, do my own traveling for the week and then attend your wedding before flying home Labor Day Monday. That way I get a 10 day trip using only 5 vacation days.
Conversely, some people may fly in Thurs or Fri and want to do your wedding first before traveling around the next week.
Post # 10
We got married on Labor Day weekend as we had out of town guests, but they only came for the long weekend, so it gave them time to arrive and leave from our wedding without taking too much time off of work. I also know that some local guests were not happy that we took away their Labor Day weekend (didn’t tell us to our face, but we heard through the grapevine). In your place, I’d chose the Thursday wedding since people can come in the weekend before and leave on the weekend right after the wedding. With a long flight and time change, I really wouldn’t want to be flying out the day after I attended a wedding (if you chose a Saturday wedding for example). And then as others have mentioned, schools start right after Labor Day. Some even start the week before that. Also I think that Aug 20th, 2020 sounds nice.
Post # 11
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I picked Thursday because I’d imagine the flights might be a bit cheaper? Plus the point about school is a good one. You could always send out a Doodle poll and pick the date that more people choose, depending on how large your wedding is.
Post # 12
Thursday. I agree with others the Labor Day weekend could be harder for those with school age children. Also as a holiday that can make travel rates more expensive.
As a Destination Wedding photographer I shoot a lot of weekday weddings for that very reason. Most couple’s guests are making a week+ vacation out of it and it doesn’t really matter what day the wedding is on.
Post # 13
Holiday travel can be so expensive but maybe that won’t be an issue because your guest are going to Europe? I would do Thursday so they can come home over the weekend and have a day of rest prior to staring their week Tuesday
Post # 14
While this may sound odd, keep in mind your friends/family that may work in early education. My mom works for our local school district and they block off labor weekend because soooo many people try to get that holiday off so it’s just easier to not allow for the time off for anything. While you shouldn’t base your wedding off a few people, it actually may be harder for people to get that time frame off BECAUSE everyone wants it off.. idk if that made sense but I think the Thursday option makes more sense, since people will be in from out of town anyways and those that are local will probably have a better chance of taking an extended weekend.
Post # 15
I doubt that whether it’s a Thursday or on a holiday makes any difference to your guests who are traveling anyways so I’d default to whatever is more convenient for your local guests or, if it makes no real difference there either, what’s cheaper. If you can save some dough without making it a huge burden on your guests, it would be silly not to.