Post # 1
I had a date set for a Friday (April 25, 2014) but after doing some research and looking at venues and prices i’m thinking about changing the date to the day before (April 24th) I know it is a thursday but the cost is less. I am thinking of my father who will be paying! The venue I am currently looking at for wedding and reception both is $1000 for friday from 10:30am-2am. The Thursday cost would be $600 for 10:30am till 2am. Ceremony around 2:30pm, Reception 4pm-10pm. Both of these prices include an alcohol permit fee (we will be bringing our own). I know there is only a 400 difference but this is why im thinking of this. The venue offers bartending staff for $25hr (even though we bring our own) and I will be hiring them for probably 6hrs ($150). They also have attendants that help with set up or will set up for you once you tell them exactly how you want it! Worry free day!!! The attendants cost is $15 an hour per attendant and I will probably hire two for two or three hours of the day. So I round about $100 for them for the day. So my Thursday wedding cost would only be around $850! This leaves money for DJ, the cake, dress, photographer!! What do you think would you do it. I do have family coming from many different states so im taking into consideration there time off work and school but I would be sending out save the dates 10 months prior to the wedding! And we live close to a large city so I figure some of the guest can enjoy a mini vaca!?
I also want to add this venue includes tables, chairs, linens for all tables, table skirting for buffet and cake table, setup of all items they provide (chair covers), Use of kitchenette, and one attendant free for an hour. Sorry I wrote a novel! lol
Post # 3
I think a Friday wedding is already inconvenient for out of town guests. For $400, I wouldn’t move it to a Thursday. Sending out save the dates ten months in advance doesn’t change the fact that people will have to take at least one day off of school or work.
Post # 5
I would stick with Friday out of courtesy to your out of town guests. I don’t think it’s fair that they should have to take two days off to attend your wedding. Some people only get a few days off per year.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I would have to take at least a day and a half off and unless you are close family or a really good friend, that’s not happening (even with the idea of a mini-vacay.) If you choose Thursday bear in mind that it will probably cut down on your guest list which should also save you some money.
Your venue is already a good deal for a Friday night with all of those add ons so I agree with UberClaire that saving $400 really isn’t worth it. I too find Friday weddings an inconvenience and a Thursday would probably get my regrets unfortunately.
Post # 7
Friday is more expensive for a reason… is way more convenient.
Post # 8
People won’t come. I get what you’re saying about the money, but I’m getting married on a freakin’ Saturday and many out of towners aren’t coming, esp the ones with kids who are in school and have activities. I would not do thursday if you want people to come.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble
We’re getting married on a holiday, which is also a Tuesday this year. Out of 55 originally invited, and 2 couples(4 people) removed, including us we’re looking at 51. Then add in another 2 couple who have already declined. 1 couple only declined b/c as it sits, BOTH of their children should be coming home from Afghanistan, and they don’t want to take the chance of being out here, should the date change. Otherwise, we’ve already figured out who’s staying here, who needs rooms, and with a total of 47 people, 32 of those are from out of state. Us, his parents, his stepbrother and his sister, along with my Moh, are the only ones in the area. My parents & GP’s are 4 hours away, the rest are out of state.
I say, do a family consensus. See how the “rumor mill” works on a thursday. Anyone flying in, would fly in on Friday morning or Thursday night regardless. I personally think it’s fine. Simply b/c regardless, they’re probably gonna be there Thursday night already. It really depends on how far away your guests are.
Post # 10
Talk to your out of state family. Email, mass text, etc. ask what would be easy for them. A lot of people can make things happen for a special occasion. I am getting married on Thursday. As soon as I thought that it was going to be an issue I sent out texts . . . Everyone said they would make it 🙂
granted I haven’t got rsvps back yet, we’re 2.5 months away and the word is r/off at work have been made and everyone is still on board!
Post # 11
$400 dollars is not worth EVERYONE attending the wedding taking an extra day off of work imo.
Post # 12
Stick with Friday. I know everyone always pulls the “it’s your day, do what you want!” line, but unless you’re eloping what you’re actually doing is hosting a party. And if it was me, I would want to be the most gracious host possible. So I would suck it up with the $400 difference in order to make sure my wedding was convenient for my guests.
What bugs me is that you (and many many other posters here on the bee!) try to justify it by saying you’ll send out the save the dates early – no one seems to get that for a lot of people, even getting a year’s worth of advance notice doesn’t change the fact that they don’t get enough vacation time (or any vacation time at all!). For example, I get 5 vacation days a year. 5. While I will happily use one to go to the wedding of a close friend, 2 is really pushing it because then I only have 3 left to visit my family for holidays or go on a vacation of my own choosing. And believe me – with my limited vacation time, if I’m going to spend it on a vacation for myself then it had BETTER be of my own choosing, to a place I really want to see!
Post # 13
Thanks for the input bees! Truthfully I am all new to the wedding planning and was just curious about others opinions on this issue since everyone is also palnning their big day! A bigger thank you to the ones that weren’t rude about it! lol Didn’t expect that just from a question. There are plenty of bees that post questions about many many different things and I would never be rude in my reply post towards them! Just saying!
Post # 14
There wasn’t a single rude response to your question, you just didn’t get the answer you wanted.
Post # 15
yes i did. i actually took the advice of the bees and called a few family members today and decided to go ahead with the friday date. Maybe the response was not rude in the way you see it but from my perspective it was. I guess i just took it wrong.
Post # 16
We’re getting married on Thursday. It was not my first choice, but we are only having 50 guests and we didn’t meet the minimum requirements for a Friday, Saturday or Sunday at our venue! It took some thought, but after checking with relatives (almost all of whom will be traveling from other states for our wedding) they all agreed that it would not be an issue. I understand that people don’t get vacation time or might not choose to use it for our wedding and I have no problem with that. I am not going to hold that against someone who cannot attend for these reasons. We sent our Save-The-Date Cards out 10 months in advance and I have not gotten any negative feedback from anyone about having it on a Thursday.
I see you decided on Friday, but I just wanted to comment anyway to state that it is not as outrageous of an idea as some made it seem.