Post # 1
So I’m new here and this will be a strange first post but I’ve been meaning to create an account and since this is a place I know no one, it’s probably best I ask here.
So my husband (I come here to plan our vow renewal since we didn’t have a wedding) was working in the yard last week on Wednesday. We live in a large wooded property. Well he was bitten by a tick while doing yard work and didn’t realize until he was in the shower that night. It was one of those ticks with reddish brown spots.
He got bit in the penis. He pulled the tick out (apparently it was as unpleasant as you would imagine) and went about his business. We had sex that night and since I’m on birth control we used no condom. He got the tick out and showered so I saw no problem with it.
A couple days go by and he says “man that tick messed me up”, but that was all. I assumed it just hurt because of the location. Later that day I was taking a nap and he woke me up to have sex. I was still half asleep so it was a quick round.
So last night we were about to have sex again and he mentions the tick bite. I ask him to let me see and the bite was swollen with another bump/sore next to it. He said it wasn’t painful just itchy which is why the big bump was raw and thd other had a sore, from scratching it.
Its mildly red, no bulls eye and only swollen where the bite was. The other red mark isn’t swollen. So needless to say we didn’t have sex last night. But now I’m wondering if its infected or anything if it could have infected me when we had sex the other day and how would I know? And it’s been a few days since he and I have had sex, we both get cranky after day two. I’m wanting to, at least with a condom but should we? I don’t want to make it worse for him.
Now you can see why I didn’t want to talk to someone irl about this lol.
Post # 2
Go. To. The. Doctor. Jesus.
Post # 3
OMG please don’t mess around with a bite in that area. Tell him to go to the doctor.
Post # 4
Hausfrau: see, idk if I should be concerned about myself to warrant a doctors visit, and I feel fine. I told my husband to call the doctor but he hates doctors and says he wants to wait and see if it gets better on its own
Post # 5
He may not have gotten the tick’s head out. Their heads burrow under the skin when they bite and suck blood. Yeah, gross. A common mistake in tick removal is to just peel it off with your fingers or take it off with tweezers. No, no, no! That can cause the body to break free of the head which is stuck under your skin!
Best method for tick removal is to take a lighter and carefully bring the flame close to the tick. The tick won’t like the heat so it will un-burrow quickly. It hurts when they do that so suddenly as a result of the flame, but it’s the safest way to remove them.
I get the doctor hate, but he really shouldn’t fuck around with this.
Post # 6
CorvusCorax: That is complete misinformation about how to remove a tick. In fact, it is the complete opposite of what ER docs receommend. Thankfully the OP’s DH has already removed the tick so he won’t be at risk of further harm by using your method.
Post # 7
Has your hubby suggested you try sucking the tick out? Many men claim that will work.
Ooooorrrrr… you could see a doctor. Either way, tell him to stop itching!
Post # 8
mudgirl420: this is coming from a woman whose life has been ruined by Lyme disease. Go to the doctor and demand at least 30 days of antibiotics!!! It took 4 years for them to diagnose me becauSE no one thought to check for Lyme and when they did, the HIGHLY inaccurate tests showed negative. And now there ares studies showing it can be sexual transmitted. I’m happy to send You information on LLMDs (Lyme literate medical,doctors). Also if you can watch the documentary “under our skin” available on Hulu or Netflix or you can catch it on youtube I believe, it will explain the controversy On Lyme. I promise you, this is important! I had to leave my social work job, had my ex fiancé leave me becauSE I’m so sick from Lyme, and have spent 10s of thousands of dollars on this disease, ( and I’m only 34) it’s not to be messed with! I will never have my life back fully and I would never want another person to go,through this hell. Best of luck!
Post # 9
CorvusCorax: For real.
mudgirl420: I’m not a medical doctor, but I doubt there’s a concern for you. Regarding your husband, however, I fail to see how this is even a question. Dude got bit by a tick and the bite is now apparently infected from his scratching. Whether this secondary infection goes away on its own is one thing, but just because there’s no bullseye doesn’t mean the tick wasn’t carrying with Lyme. By the time you see a host of the symptoms, it’s incredibly difficult to treat with antibiotics. Why on god’s earth would you risk that because “you hate doctors”?
Post # 10
He needs to quit whining and go to the doctor. Tick bites can lead to infections and other very unplesant things. Depending on the nature of the infection, it may be spread either elsewhere in his body or yes, even to you– probably not highly likely, but definitely not impossible if you have sex. While a condom may protect you from infection, the condom may actually irritate his wound. So no sex till he is better or at least gets a doctor’s ok. I’m not a doctor. This is just common sense that anything red and swollen may be infected, that the infection may be spread to others, and that anything that causes friction on an infected area might irritate it.
Post # 11
If this were on, say, his arm I would agree with your husband’s wait and see approach. But if this gets infected … it’s his dick. I feel like his dick should be pretty important to him. doctor, NOW.
Post # 12
Had the exact same type thing on my leg. It was so itchy. After 4 weeks I finally asked my boyfriend (who is a doctor) to look at it & he checked it and discovered a pinscher was left in there. I have a lovely scar there now. Tell him to be a man, be an adult, be responsible and get it checked.
Post # 13
I wonder how cranky he would be after no sex because his tick infected dick fell off.
In all seriousness, he needs to see a doctor.
Post # 14
I don’t know a man ALIVE ON EARTH who would just “wait and see” if something was wrong with his PENIS. For fuck’s sake. He has got to go to the doctor. Is there something mentally wrong with this guy? My husband would have been at the ER the second he saw a tick SUCKING BLOOD OUT OF HIS PENIS.
Sorry for the all caps festival, but I am just stunned by this.
Post # 15
lol these posts above me are hilarious. but in all seriousness, some men really fear going to the doctor, especially when it comes to down there. my fiance’s the same way. but, this seems like a really unique situation that warrants a visit. tell him to suck it up and just go! 😛