Post # 1
Hi bees, wondering what everyones thoughts are on the groom not wearing a tie ? My fiance isnt really a suit person and he doesnt feel comfotable in a tie, he looks uncomfortable, feels uncomfortable and because his neck is thick it looks stuffy.
Wondering if any one elses groom is not wearing a tie ?
I know that when you have a beachy wedding it is common not to wear a tie….but our wedding is a garden wedding and my dress is formal, very lacey and vintage looking.
Im a little stressed about this because its 2 weeks until the wedding !
Post # 2
Your wedding sounds similar to mine and my husband did not wear a tie. I was fine with it. He wore a nice dress shirt under his suit that looked good open-collar and he looked great in my opinion. Not once in looking back at my wedding photos have I thought “he should have worn a tie.” I just thought it was more important that he feel comfortable in what he was wearing than to force formality on him.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
For your style of wedding I think he should suck it up; the other men will be wearing ties and he’ll look odd in pictures. Plus, no offence to him, but it’s really not a big deal to wear a tie and he can sneakily take it off after the formal photos are done 🙂
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Post # 5
TanyaLeigh050414: If he has a thick neck, is a standard tie long enough for him?
He may not need all the length of an extra long tie that is made for very tall men, but a standard tie may be too tight. He might be tieing the tie too tight in order to get it to be long enough. Any tailor could make him a custom tie.
Ties are not tourniquets. They just need to be tied so they sit well on the shirt, not tight enough to strangle him.
Post # 6
TanyaLeigh050414: I think he should wear a tie, given the formality of the wedding.
No tie is MUCH better than a clip on tie. No one over the age of 8 should wear a clip on tie. Ever.
Most men who are uncomfortable in ties have them too tight, and have shirts that are too small. I would start by trying to find a shirt he wants to wear, that is comfortable with its top button done up (like it will be with a tie). Then, move on to a tie. Clothes that fit make such a huge difference!
What colour suit is he going to wear?
Post # 7
My sweetie isn’t wearing a tie. We think a suit jacket is formal enough for our hot summer outdoor wedding! As long as the groomsmen aren’t either, I say go with whatever makes you happy, comfortable and feels true to the two of you. If he feels stiff and unhappy, it will reflect in the photos.