Post # 1
I know most people are against having tiered receptions, but hear me out. I have a fairly large guest list, over 200 people. Alot of them are work friends and people from my church who are more so friends with my parents. I’m thinking of having a cake and punch reception in the basement of the church immediately after the ceremony, maybe with some other desserts and day few appetizers. Afterwards I was thinking of having my family and close friends/out of town guests over to my parents house for, not necessarily a formal reception, but a get together and dinner/cook out. How does that sound to you? Woold something like that be ok? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks bees!
Post # 3
As long as the ones not invited to the home get together aren’t told about it in a way that would make them feel left out, it would be fine. I think what people are really against is tiered receptions in one place, where either A.) Some people are fed dinner and some are not, B.) some people are only invited to the ceremony and not the reception OR only invited to the dancing portion, or C.) People get different meal/drink options (the wedding party gets Dom Perignon, and everyone else gets sparkling white grape juice.
I am pretty sure what you are doing won’t offend the church friends. This is actually fairly common–a wedding I went to recently, the bride invited the whole church to the ceremony and then had the reception later. No one who wasn’t close with the bride was expected to bring a gift, and no one seemed offended.
Post # 4
I think the way to do this with church people is to put an invitation in the bulletin, but NOT send individuals invitations. All the individual invitations will have the reception info on them. Churches are public places – people can come to the ceremony and shouldn’t have any expectation of a reception unless they’re specifically invited.