Post # 1
- Wedding: Fireman’s Pavillion
I’m planning my own wedding for early 2020, and someone I am related too (let’s call them Mike) is planning a wedding for late 2021/early 2022. We are both in the others wedding party.
My Fiancé wants the groomsmen to wear mint colored ties, to honor a deceased relative. Bridesmaid or Best Man will be wearing a different color that matches the groomsmens shirts.
Mike is very angry with my fiancé and I because their wedding colors include sea foam green which is “the same color”. We don’t really have a color theme since we’re just filling the wedding with things that we like, so the only big thing we planned as green are ties. We honestly believe this is a non-issue, but clearly Mike and his Fiance thinks we’re out of line.
Just want to poll a sea of internet strangers to get a wide variety of perspectives. Do you believe we’re out of line or do you believe this is a non-issue? Would you be upset
Post # 2
Mike sounds unhinged; it is completely a non-issue. Even if your weddings were one week apart I would still say Mike is unhinged for caring about this.
I would just be like “lol okay Mike,” and then never bring it up again with him. Definitely don’t stray from your plan though as it sounds like there is a symbolic significance to the color and you guys have every right to use it!
Post # 3
This is such a non-issue that I can’t even believe you had to post about it. It’s a tie. If there is a year or more between the two weddings, no one will even remember. I would not be upset at all. I can’t believe Mike is that upset about it. That blows my mind.
Post # 4
This is completely absurd. Are you also not allowed to wear a white dress because the bride will be two years later? Are brown or black shoes off limits to all your groomsmen too if that’s what his groomsmen are wearing? To be honest I am pretty shocked that the men are even discussing ties and wedding colours with one another, especially so far out.
Post # 5
And if anyone is paying that close attention to the groomsmen’s ties then you’re throwing the most boring wedding in the history of weddings and have bigger problems with your wedding than green ties.
Post # 6
Non issue. People planning a wedding for one or two years down the line, don’t get to reserve a color.
Post # 7
Definitely not an issue. Shades of green are very popular.
Post # 8
Bee, I’d be like, Mike boy bye! Get outta my face with that BS!
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
They don’t get to call dibs on a color, and certainly not two years out! They’ll get over it and if they don’t, that’s their problem.
Post # 10
1) Mint and seafoam aren’t the same color if he’s going to be that specific about colors, and 2) nobody remembers tie colors.
Unless both grooms wear light green suits, no one is going to remember that both weddings had light green in them.
Post # 12
Mike is an idiot. Aside from the fact that no one owns a colour, that particular colour is very popular (it is actually one of my favourite colours and was featured heavily at my wedding). Is he also upset that you will be copying him by having flowers and wedding vows?
Post # 13
What an unhinged Groomzilla. I’d laugh at him. He doesn’t have proprietary use of a freaking color just because he’s using it in his wedding.
Post # 14
willowrose15 : Mike is out of line. I can see why they may be sensitive over that colour but they don’t own it. If I really wasn’t bothered about the colour I would choose something else to avoid upset but if you really want green, have green!
Post # 15
It doesn’t matter how close the weddings are. No one owns a color.