Post # 1
I was recently invited to a baby shower for a girl I knew from church a long time ago. I was pleased to get the invite and planned on purchasing something off the registry. Last week she went into labor! The baby is great and so is she. I messaged her to see if she needed anything at the hospital and she said that her family was out buying everything the baby needed. I still wanted to get her a gift but I didn’t know what she had already gotten. I don’t think the registry would be a reliable place to start because she HAS to have a bunch of things off there thay haven’t been marked as purchased. She still has a carseat and stroller on there, things I’m sure have already been purchased since she has already taken the baby home. So I thought it was best to order a keepsake and I ordered a set of Tiffany baby china as a nice, pretty little gift. Well, a few people I have talked to keep saying that it’s a silly and overindulgent gift and that the money could have been better spent on something else. I thought it was nice! I would have liked to receive it myself! Now I don’t know if I should return it. Here’s the link to the set:
So, is this way too frivolous of a gift? Should I return it?
Post # 3
I think it’s a very nice gift, personally, I have given all of my nieces a Tiffany & Co., tea set when they were born. Talk about impractical but I have had “tea” with them many times using it and loved it and hope that they will pass it onto a special little girl someday. If your friend will be struggling to afford diapers, then maybe it’s not the best gift. However, that was not the case with my nieces – at all, they had everything and then some so an heirloom gift was perfect. Is it the most practical gift, no but not everyone needs practical gifts when they have a child. Trust your judgement! Best wishes!
Post # 4
I used to work at Tiffanys and they have an entire baby section for this reason! Tons and tons of people get those silver spoons and have them engraved. They also have the piggy banks and the dishes, etc. If you happen to know that she’s struggling with money, then maybe it’s an overindulgent and frivolous gift. But, if she’s not struggling with money, then I’d say that it’s a really, really nice keepsake! Some people just don’t get “Tiffanys” and buying stuff that is expensive because of the name. If you get it and you think she gets it and would appreciate it, then I think that’s a lovely gift.
Post # 5
I think it’s pretty….but seriously, what on earth are they going to use it for? It’s expensive, breakable, and honestly kind of dangerous. If the baby slammed it down and it shattered, it would spread sharp shards of porcelin everywhere!
I think there are lots of fun practical gifts that she’d appreciate more.
Post # 6
@jayebaby: I think it is a wonderful gift! Where I am from people do not give gifts before the baby is born and so its the parents responsibility to buy the “essentials”. Given that the gifts are given after the baby is born it is normally something less essential, like what you have chosen. I think if the baby hadn’t come early it was right for you to have bought her something she needed off the registry, but given thats not the case, I think your gift is PERFECT!
You can always offer her something practical too. Like to come and clean her house or do her ironing for her. Or make her some dishes she can freeze? That costs next to nothing but I am sure would be the most useful thing with the newborn!
Post # 7
Babies and porcelain don’t mix, in my opinion. There is a reason baby dishes and cups are made out of plastic. She registered for $135 worth of broken porcelain pieces. Unless I’m completely missing the point of this set. Is it not for baby to eat from?
Post # 8
I’d probably call her and ask if she had a stroller or carseat yet, I’d probably just come out and say “I wanted to get you a keepsake but also want to make sure you’ve got everything you need” to be sure she likes what she’s getting. While I know I really want some keepsakes when we have our children, I think I’d want to cover the practical bases first.
Post # 9
@Sea_bass: I love that idea! That is definitely what I would have most appreciated. That is exactly what I’ll do,regardless of whether I return the set. Thanks for that suggestion!
@AprilJo2011: I’m not exactly certain what everyone else would do with it but I don’t think it’s really for everyday eating. I think it’s mostly decorative and for formal occasions. If I had it, I would set it out on any occasion that called for regular china and watch the baby with a hawks eye. I also thought about the approaching holidays and that it could be fun for any formal dinners she may be hosting. It definitely would be mostly decorative and potentially an heirloom.
I’m really not quite sure where she is financially, so I haven’t really taken that into consideration. The set is expensive as far as baby dishes go but it’s actually not an expensive gift in general. I just thought it was neat that(if well taken care of) it could be passed down to her daughter’s daughter.
Post # 10
In my opinion, it’s kind of a useless gift. It’s pretty, but expensive and unpractical.
As a new mom, I’d rather have gift certificates to Target/Walmart to buy diapers if I already had all the baby gear I needed. Or even just cash; a few people have sent us cash, we started DS a savings account already and any cash we received as baby gifts has gone into it.
Post # 11
I was given as a baby a nice china plate from my aunt and uncle. My mom kept it up out of my reach until I was old enough to understand what it was and the meaning behind it. I still have it to this day and it reminds me of my aunt and uncle every time I see it.
So if you are wanting a nice keepsake then I think it’s fine. If you are wanting something they’ll use then might go with something else.
Post # 12
I have to agree with @crayfish:, one good hit and that beautiful china is toast. I could see spending a little more on a nice set of baby proof dishes but china? I would definitely look into something a tad more pratical and safe for a family with a new baby. Very nice thought though.
Post # 13
I think it’s up to you and her. Personally, I would want something more practical (clothes, for example, for 3-6 month old because babies grow SOOOOO fast and people buying presents tend to focus on newborn clothes).
That said, that’s just me. Obviously you would like this as would other posters, so the question is, would your friend? If you think your friend is someone who would appreciate the Tiffany blue and the special occassion-ness of the set, then go for it. But if she’s more practical then it may be something you should rethink?
Also – what does her house look like? Is there a nice china cabinet where something like this could be placed or will it have to go in a box in the basement somewhere?
Post # 14
I had no idea such a thing existed. I was all set to be outraged (OUTRAGED!) that some mom-to-be registered for such a thing…then I saw she didn’t. So now I have no idea what to do with these FEELINGS! Haha. I guess I’m on team practical and if I received such a gift, I’d likely think “WTF?” and while I’d be thankful, I’d secretly wish you’d spent the money on something a little less…well, in my mind, wasteful. But keep in mind, I don’t even have adult people china, so baby china…(I laugh in my head every time I see those two words next to each other)…it really just seems crazy.
THAT SAID, you’re very kind and generous and it’s a sweet thought, and that’s always what counts…but maybe include a gift receipt…just in case.
Post # 15
I think it’s a nice gift for them to give to their child when older. If I had been given a gift card to buy diapers, that certainly would not be remembered at all. And nothing to give the child as a “keepsake”.
Post # 16
Sorry, OP. It’s really cute, but incredibly useless. Babies don’t need china, especially not a $$$ set from Tiffany’s. I don’t really get stuff like this, I guess.