(Closed) Time 2 chime in! SURPRISE YOU'RE A BRIDESMAID!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think you need to tell teveryone before hand. As a bridesmaid, I need time to mentally prepare the be the focus of some attention and to help out with a wedding.  If I showed up to a party expecting something else, only to find out have specific duties to perform, I’d be really irritated.

Even as a guest, I’d want to know.  I’d hate to show up to a wedding without gifts or a card.  Or, I’d be more likely to skip a formal party with a specific outfit requirement if I thought it was just for fun.  I know other people who are older might wonder why they were being invited to a party, and opt out so the young people could have fun.

I think the idea is awesome, but the logistics may not work out the way you hope it will.

Post # 5
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11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Please just tell them.

Post # 8
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8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would not like this at all.

Post # 10
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1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve heard of surprise weddings before, but never ones that had a bridal party.  I just don’t think there is a good way to spring that task/honor on someone.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think I would personally feel awkward and out of place if I went to an engagment party and it turned out to be a wedding. I would be worried that I didn’t wear the right clothing and wonder if the B&G would be angry that I didn’t bring a proper wedding gift.

If you do decided to have a bridal party, you need to at least let them know that the party is a wedding so that they are prepared for it.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@soonmrswhite:  I wouldnt like to be a bridesmaid by surprise. Although it wouldnt be my wedding I would feel put on the spot. Also, if the wedding is a surprise then what about gifts and stuff?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Personally, I would really enjoy being invited to what turned out to be a surprise wedding. I think it is a lot of fun … I wouldn’t event hink to eb worried about whether or nto I broguth a gift or dressed right because, after all, it was a surprise … there’s no way anything wedding-specific could have been expected of me, so why would I worry about it?

I don’t think you should spring the surprise on your bridesmaids though … I think it’d be nice to let them in on it if your’e going to do a wedding party.

 

Good luck with planning (and keeping it a secret if you go this route!)

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