- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I am sorry for the vent, however, I feel like I need to hear if I am over-reacting to this situation, and figured you ladies would be able to help. I decided on a date for our wedding, well over a year ago, and when it was made, I let everyone know there would be no children at the wedding, nor would everyone get a +1 (unless living together, engaged, or married). At the time, my cousin had no issue with this, saying he understood. When I sent out the invitations in April, he sent me a mesasge saying, “Can my girlfriend come?” I had no idea he was dating anyone! I wrote him back, “Cousin, I am happy to hear about your relationship! As of right now, we are to our max on our capacity, and cannot add anymore guests. If she would like, she is welcome to come to the rehearsal, and the after party, as we would love to meet her. If we get any ‘no’ responses, I can always let you know if we can fit her in or not.” Meanwhile, I have only had “yes” responses, and so I had not told him to bring her yet.
Well, I guess the waiting was not working for him, and he went through my aunt, to get an answer from my mom. My mom was with me, that we should wait to see what RSVPs came in, and then let him know. Well, they threw a fit, with my aunt threatening not to come, and backing my mom in a corner. I told her to say, “yes,” even though I was beyond mad, and really, really wanted to be spiteful. Everything was quiet for a bit, until my mom receives this message from my aunt, “Cousin and girlfriend are trying to decide if their time would be better spent on a cruise, or coming out to stmbtgrl’s wedding.” You have got to be kidding me! First, you back us all into a corner, and then you have the gall to say, “time better spent.” What I wouldn’t give to just tell them all not to bother coming….
I was livid, and my FH told me it was okay, to not worry about it because two “no” responses would actually be great, however, I am so mad! I think the wording is just so cruel, and really hurt my feelings. My cousin and I aren’t close, so I would not be disappointed if he didn’t come. It seems like after everything, the emails and the threats, for them to say it, really stung. Am I right to be mad, or am I just overreacting?