Post # 1
My fiance refuses to see me before the ceremony so we can’t do pictures before the ceremony like my daughter suggested (I don’t mind either way). We’re getting married in a historical area in Indiana down on the riverfront so we have lots of places we want to take pictures (most are within walking distance of each other). We’re thinking we’ll need about 2 hours to get all the pictures done. Is that too long to make guests wait?
The ceremony and reception places are just a few blocks apart and there are lots of little shops and such between the two. We were thinking that guests could just walk around and enjoy the river and/or the shops during that time. Is that fair to ask our guests? Or should we have entertainment and snacks set up at the reception hall? I am clueless about this sort of thing, lol.
Post # 3
Personally, as a guest, I would be annoyed at a two hour gap, especially if it wasn’t caused by the venues (i.e, the “Catholic Gap” that often occurs depending on the time of a ceremony versus standard mass times). I might consider attending either only the ceremony or only the reception to avoid just standing around waiting for the bride and groom to show up for two hours.
Post # 4
That’s too long for my tastes, and if you must have that long a gap then you need to provide entertainment, snacks and beverages for your guests. You’d be a really mean hostess to expect your guests to come to your special event and pay for their own beer or coffee while you’re off having a good time taking photos.
2 hours with a proper cocktail/appetizer array is still a little too log for my tastes but might not be too much of a burden for your guests, as long as you feed/shelter/entertain them.
Post # 5
We were considering having snacks and bottled water in the reception hall immediately after the ceremony and have the DJ set up with some background music. We were just going to say that you can feel free to wander around downtown or head to the reception hall for snacks and music (preferably worded more elegantly than that, lol).
If that won’t work, any suggestions on how to get all the pictures done in an hour? I remember that the pictures took a very long time at my daughter’s wedding and they didn’t even get that many pictures back. I don’t know if it was her photographer or if they really just take that long.
Post # 6
For me, the photos should be a reflection of the day, not two hour’s worth of posed couple ones. I went to a wedding where they disappeared for ages to studio, we were bored and hungry (and poor as we had to pay for our very expensive drinks while waiting!).
We are having 20mins of couple photos and then 6 pre determined group photos. All at the reception venue. We’d like to spend time with the people who have come to celebrate with us!
Post # 7
@Hemnes: You’re right. I had a few shots that I really had my heart set on but if I can’t get them, oh well…
Post # 8
I think the gap is fine. Every wedding I’ve been to has one and we just go to a pub or something in between with friends. That’s one of the most enjoyable parts of the day for me honestly, catching up in a casual setting with friends I maybe haven’t seen in a while.
Post # 9
Having been at weddings waiting for the bride and groom for a few hours is annoying. Esp if it’s not because of a reason like the catholic gap. Have you guys thought of doing a day after shoot? Try to condense to the length of your cocktail hour.
Post # 10
I thought cocktail hour was for taking pictures? Could you just do an extra long cocktail hour?
Post # 11
I think it’s fine– can you do an afternoon wedding (like 2 pm) and an evening reception (staring at like 5pm)?
Just don’t do what the last bride did (at a wedding I was at in November). The ceremony was at 2pm, and the “reception started at 3”. But there was no hours d’evoures! And no bar! So we just STOOD AROUND UNTIL 5 when the wedding party showed up. Then we had to wait OVER AN HOUR while the 250 people at the wedding went through the buffet line. It was 7pm by the time the cake was cut, and everyone LEFT. MAYBE 25 people stayed for dancing!
Post # 12
Almost every wedding I have been to has had a gap. I think in Canada it’s more common though.
Post # 13
I second the suggestion for day after shots. No one is going to have fun at the little shops anyway if they’re constantly having to look down at their phones to make sure they’re not going to be late coming back. Can you imagine how someone would feel if they left, and then got back in the middle of toasts?
Plus, pictures ALWAYS take longer than you think they’re going to.
Post # 14
I don’t think two hours is a big deal at all. We are getting married at 3 pm and our reception is at 6:30. Everyone will be close enough to home or where they are staying to return home and freshen up, have a few drinks, etc. I once went out to a bar with friends between a wedding ceremony and reception. We disinterested have to worry about being late, it was nice to have a chance to chat about the ceremony, etc. plus get a bit of caffeine in our systems before the reception.
It is nice that you’ve thought of things people can do in between. Just include that on an enclosure card in your invitation and everyone will be grateful. And then take the time and enjoy your picture taking time.
Post # 15
2 hours is about the limit for a gap in my books. If they have snacks or something at the hall, though, I wouldn’t mind terribly.
Post # 16
We are planning on having a 2 hour gap… And we are having that as the cocktail hour(s). We are having an outdoor ceremony and reception, and are planning on having some games set out on the lawn and the photobooth start early so guests can be entertained and we won’t have to rush our pictures!