(Closed) Time gap (between ceremony and reception)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@charleenbarila:  I understand the church’s restrictions on time.  That’s why you choose a venue that will work with your time constraints.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@KCKnd2:  Well, it was left up to you, and you chose to do it.  You could have had your reception immediately following the ceremony.

I know that no one here likes my directness – I get that.  But again, I’m not going to justify a bad idea.

Just because it’s “normal” or common doesn’t mean it’s correct.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My ceremony is at 4 and will be over by 4:40. Our reception venue is like 5 mins away and the cocktail hour is 5-6; dinner/dancing 6-10. I figure by the time people mingle with those they havent seen in a while and drive to the reception venue it will be 5. Me and the Fiance are somewhat impatient people Tongue Out, so that’s why we didn’t add a gap. However, I think its definitely not wrong or uncommon to have longer gaps before the reception begins.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m personally not a fan of bigger gaps- def not more an an hour and anything over 30 minutes is pushing it.  I realize different churches and venues have different start times, but I have been to Catholic weddings without gaps- you just have to find the right venues and plan well.  I think it is inconsiderate to guests, especially guests who are traveling out of town.  That said, it you already have a gap, I would make sure you and your family hosted some kind of event in between like a tea at cousin so and so’s house.  I’m sure your guests will appreciate this option.  No one wants to hang out at the mall or visit the local zoo in wedding attire. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Like most posters here, I don’t find it uncommon for Catholic weddings to have a big gap.  I actually attended one that had a 6 hour gap! (DONT do that cause no one will show up to the ceremony and everyone will be at the reception!) My ceremony starts at 2 and will be done by 3:30.  Cocktail hour starts at 6pm but I have a 6 hour reception so my guests can rest up for the long party ahead 🙂

 

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it is nice to have a cocktail hour or something to entertain, but an hour is really not so bad. Can you recommend a bar or something for those who  want to have a cocktail before your reception?

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

i’d say no more than 2 hours between your ceremony and reception – anymore than that and I think it becomes disrespectful to your guests (especially those who are from out-of-town). Some might live far away enough that they’re not getting a hotel room, but close enough that they can travel to and from the wedding in one day. Besides hanging out in a restaurant or something at that point – and then maybe they won’t be hungry at the reception – what else are they going to do?

There is no gap between our ceremony and reception. It’s all in one place. Get married…they bring out the food while we’re getting pictures…people will be eating dinner probably within 20 minutes of us getting married. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@true2k5:  Mmm…I think it’s a pretty rude to ask people to just mill around for a couple of hours with nothing to do. Especially if they have drive an hour but are not staying in a hotel. They’ll have nowhere to go. Are they supposed to just wait in their cars for an hour? You’re going to have to tell the Father no or provide some kind of entertainment or cocktail hour in between.

If there are going to be people with kids there then I think some of them will probably just head home. I certainly wouldn’t want to entertain say, three bored children during the gap. 

If there was going to be a long gap wjere I was expected to entertain myself I’d probably just go home. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

Don’t stress! My ceremony’s at 2PM and my cocktail hour start at 5. Our venue is two floors, the first floor is a lounge and the second floor is the ballroom. We just rented out the lounge so people could come early. It’s on the beach so it’s a nice place to relax in between. 🙂

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