Post # 1
I found this particular point in the planning process the most annoying and stressful. How long to make people wait? Not too long, not too short. I wanted to make sure I had enough time for pics at the church and recption (country club) and didn’t want to miss too much of the cocktail hour. (I want to enjoy the reception too!) Soooo, I finally decided this. My ceremony starts around 1:15, will end around 2:15, there is a 30 min drive between the church and the reception.and the reception doesnt start till 4 with the cocktail hour.
In an effort to avoid making people grumpy for having to wait, I am supplying at the church personalized bottles of water and a treat. (I haven’t figured out what kind of treat yet, I was thinking homemade oreo balls or sugar cookies or the like). That-a-way people can’t be too upset. I have written in the programs on the last page a little note reminding of the time of the reception and advising people if they get to the country club early, then super! there will be a lounge, a bar, a pool/virtual golf game room, to keep themselves entertained for a few mins til cocktail hour begins.
What are other people’s time frames between ceremony and the reception? What are some easy treat receipes I can make in bulk to pass out at the church?
Post # 3
On advisement of the director at our reception venue, we’re doing:
4:30 ceremony (not a full mass…it will be about 30 mins)
6:00 cocktail hour
It’s about a 15 min drive from ceremony to reception. We originally had it planned for 4pm, but the guy said that would give people way too much time to be bored. My family always kinda hangs around and chats after ceremonies so I think the timing is perfect.
Post # 4
our mass begins at 10 and will go til about noon then our reception starts at 3, we just advised people to grab some lunch in between on our website
Post # 5
We’re all in one spot, so we have it a bit easier than you do. We only have an hour between the ceremony and reception though, and during that hour we’re having cocktails, hors d’ouerves and a cheese buffet. We’re doing the majority of our photos before the ceremony but I realize that isn’t for everyone.
I was at a wedding during the summer that had about 2.5 hours between the ceremony and reception even though it was all at one location. They left bottled water and soda in a few coolers for everyone but no food. We were told there would be hayrides for the guests to keep us amused but then the wedding party took off on the hay wagon for photos and it never came back. So everyone just kind of pulled up a piece of grass in the shade with a bottle of water and grumbled a little. There was nothing on the invitations about this time lag otherwise we would have figured something out (my sister lives close by but we weren’t sure if she was around that weekend). I think so long as your guests are informed of the gap you’re fine. Plus please leave them something to eat! Even just a veggie tray or two!!! At that particular wedding, someone ended up sneaking into the reception area and grabbing some food off the veggie trays which started mayhem. I don’t know if we were allowed to go in there the whole time and no one said it, or if everyone “broke the rules” but come on now, you can’t leave people for 2.5 hours in a field with nothing to eat and just some bottles of water!
I like that your venue has stuff to keep the early guests amused. That’s a great idea! I think when you’re moving venues too it gives people the opportunity to stop at a coffee shop or whatever, have a snack and relax.
Post # 6
Mass at 1pm (will end around 2, with people lingering for photos, etc.)
Reception begins at 5/5:30pm
Yes, I know this is a huge time lag. We kind of had to do it this way because a 1pm ceremony was the latest my church would allow, and we’re doing an outdoor tented reception with dinner, so we couldn’t start much earlier than 5 or 5:30 due to the potential heat (and we want the sunset to happen during our reception – it was a big part in choosing our venue!)
We plan to include lots of information in our out-of-town bags about places to go for lunch/coffee in between. Its a really small town so it will be easy for people to go back to the hotel and hang out for a bit. This gives us lots of time to get things set up in between (we’re DIYing the reception in my in-laws backyard) and take pictures. Its not ideal – I would have loved a 4pm reception or something like that, but this is the best we can do.
Post # 7
Check out this post here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/gap-between-ceremony-and-reception#post-1108005
Ceremony Start: 3:15 pm
Ceremony End: 4:00 pm
Guests mingle till 4:15 pm
Guests drive to reception/cocktail venue: 4:45 (its a 30 minute drive)
Cocktail hour begins: 5 pm?
So really if guests bolt out of the ceremony right at 4, they will have to wait about a half an hour. We are just going to try to make it very clear that the reception begins at 5 pm, not immedietly following.
Post # 8
i already know people won’t like my time lag… but i don’t care! our ceremony is at 4:30 and should end at 5:00. it’s a private ceremony, only 30 people. i didn’t want people coming early for the reception, it’s about an hour drive and people will probably want to come a little early because they don’t know where it is so they might have trouble finding the place. in case they ended up coming TOO early, i wanted to have lots of time inbetween so they aren’t crashing the ceremony accidently. the reception starts at 6:30. yes, it’s a very long cocktail hour. but we’ll have lots of food, so they’ll just have to deal with it. and as people arrive for the reception, they’ll get to eat too.
Post # 9
I feel your pain. We’ve got some serious lag time. Our ceremony starts at 2:30 – 3:30/4(ish) – catholic mass. But our cocktail hour doesn’t start until 6pm! There’s about a 20m drive to our reception but that still leaves a lot of time.
We’re kinda spreading the word that people can wear something less formal to the church and check into the hotel (same place as the reception) and shower/change between the church and cocktail hour.
I’m just afraid a lot of people will just start drinking after church and be obliterated by the time everything starts.